sry didn't read the majority of the thread, but I went ahead with registering just so I could make a post...When you say you're recording direct, you mean you run your guitar through the pedal, and from the pedal into one of your audio interface's inputs (PC sound card/recording device) yes?
If so you've basically left out the most important thing in the chain.... The speakers! You need an emulation, and not necessarily an amp emulation...
Just pick up an IR plugin such as LeCab or KeFir (both free) and find an IR/cabinet impulse to your liking (LOTS of free ones out there) for your speaker emulation. You're good to go then

You can also add a free amp simulation prior to the IR loader, in the case if you're using say an overdrive pedal instead of a distortion pedal.