- Mar 17, 2009
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Moving is terrible. Every process involves teams of dummies that can't do their job. It will shock you how stressful it can be. Gotta really really want to do it.
Hey, man, I hope you found a suitable home in Nornan OK. No, my interest in your search was not the reason why I discovered my “dream hone and location in historic Tulsa”. Rather I was on the web site for our local newspaper and clicked on an ad for Caldwell Banker real estate. There was a “luxury”link, and I went on it. Along with hones in Europe and the UK, there was a listing for (I think) 1245 Hazel Ave. Tulsa Ok. That‘s right in the middle of the housing area I have liked in Tulsa for 50 years. It made me think about an old goal I never QUITE reached. The house was priced at $699,000.First of all -- I'm sorry. I feel like I probably deserve the blame for starting you down the path at looking at OK listings. Refresh my memory; did your wife live with you in OK before moving to CO? If so, how long has it been? Do you have good friends/family there that you could visit once the pandemic is over to see what you both think of present day Tulsa? Or is this a chance-in-a-million unique historic home you have the itch to make yours before it's somebody else's?
How much of homebodies are you guys? If you spend 95% of your hours at home, then the home itself and how much joy it gives is paramount. That includes the local climate and whatever you're staring at when you're out on the porch. How does a charming, tree-lined historic neighborhood weigh against the mountain view. Having lived for a while in a mountain town, I know just having those mountain peaks in the skyline has an impact on how you feel and you miss it when it's not there. If you go on lots of outings, what kind are they and how fulfilling would each city be?
Your spouse seems pretty flippant about suggesting you buy it and keep both -- I know you don't want to be two-house people, but if she's happy with the idea, maybe that's a natural/fortunate starting point to allow you both to come to realize you prefer one over the other.
It's nice to dream and explore possibilities but just because you can doesn't mean you should.Considering all responses, we’ll stay in one house in CO. Just for information, my wife and I used to live in central OK for most of our individual lives. We moved to CO about 10 years ago. We are very familiar with Tulsa and know there isn’t much to recommend, except it has the nicest area of 100 year old homes that I have seen — and we’ve visited many places in the US and the world. It was in that historical area that I found that home. But for that area in Tulsa I wouldn’t consider it. Thanks for all the advice. And here’s the kicker. I am 77 and have no business owning a 100 year old house,— no matter how updated it is.and other than that specific part of Tulsa, CO is a much better place.
We're keeping an eye on the market, but don't have all the money together, yet. Fully confident we can land something we really enjoy when we do. Buy the new house outright, buy a $2-3k pickup truck, move at our leisure, taking time to arrange things the way we want, knock out painting/etc before furniture is in the way... Yard sale the stuff we decide not to take with from the old house, then spruce it up a bit and dump the eventual sale proceeds into savings, sell off the beater pickup, and live out the rest of our lives without a mortgage in a house that's not too small, falling apart, and full of mold, lol. We're just hitting our forties now.Hey, man, I hope you found a suitable home in Nornan OK. No, my interest in your search was not the reason why I discovered my “dream hone and location in historic Tulsa”. Rather I was on the web site for our local newspaper and clicked on an ad for Caldwell Banker real estate. There was a “luxury”link, and I went on it. Along with hones in Europe and the UK, there was a listing for (I think) 1245 Hazel Ave. Tulsa Ok. That‘s right in the middle of the housing area I have liked in Tulsa for 50 years. It made me think about an old goal I never QUITE reached. The house was priced at $699,000.
Our smaller home in CO is valued by similar sales within a rock-throw away in the last 6 months at $950,000. Now realtors always talk about “location -location-location”. It seems that I have a really superior location. Though it did not cost that much fir the lot and the house build. Now, my wife has never been “flippant” about anything.. But she made it clear that the Tulsa house would be a second home., and I don’t want one. I’m a guy who thinks his wife has some rights too, so I will not go against one who has fought beside me to get us where we are. And the Tulsa house will never have our Mountain views. Would never have our 1/2 acre yard with the east half being a Ponderosa Pine Forrest. It will never have my beloved four car garage we have now. Thus, I don’t blame my wife for helping to bring me to me senses. It was an idea similar to mine as a young boy that I wanted to be a steam locomotive engineer when I grew up. Never got to apply for the job. In 2013, I got to ride in the cab of our steam loco that runs from Durango to Silverton CO. It was the most miserable 4 hours of my life. Maybe I should take care in what I ask for. I might just get it!
I get that. I am a house guy as well. But if you can't do the hassle of maintaining multiple properties then a condo is the answer. That being said, I am not talking about a 800 sq ft place. We looked at a couple of condo's in the Vegas area that were over 5000 sq ft and had everything.Then he can be unhappy in both places...
He's a "House" man. Pool, guest house, the works.