Kezia
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Allow me to bitch and moan for a little bit, fellas.
About 3 years ago I joined my best friend's band, they needed a bassist as he was moving to drums to replace their old drummer. I didn't really know how to play bass all too well but I said "hey fuck it why not" and joined in. I've learned a lot about playing bass, I've had a lot of fun, and we've made some pretty good music together. However, things have started to turn sour recently.
Usually at practice we'll split a 12 pack between the 3 of us, nothin wrong with getting a little loose. But eventually a 12 pack turned into a 24 pack, then a 24 pack into a 30 rack and a bottle of evan williams, and the drinking started becoming more important than the practice. Eventually it got to the point where I had to put my foot down, and talk the other guys into not having a ridiculous amount of alcohol at practice. They agreed, and while our guitarist has stuck by that our drummer (the best friend I mentioned earlier) has only gotten worse.
We implemented another rule as to not allow other people in our practice space while we're practicing. We got one buddy that pops in every now and again, but he doesn't interfere so we all agreed that it's cool if he's there. However, our drummer has started ignoring that rule and the "dont drink so much that you can't practice" rule.
A few weeks ago I walk in, theres a few extra people, our drummer is mildly wasted but sober enough to play halfway decent. We have a talk, try to re-establish the boundaries we've all set, and things are good. The next week, I walk in and there's even more people there and our drummer is chugging bottles and bottles of cheap aldi wine. He's obviously way too wasted to do fucking anything. So our guitarist and I did our best to get everyone out of there, make a bed for our drummer, then leave in hopes that maybe that night he fucked up so bad that he'd start reconsidering his actions.
Then LAST week happens. Our guitarist and I drive down to the practice space about 40 minutes outside our town, and we open the door to practically the entire fucking town in our practice space. Our drummer is taking shot after shot, drink after drink, so we just got the hell out of there. We have had this same discussion with our drummer multiple times now, and at this point he's left us no option but to kick him out.
Maybe I've given him too many chances, but do y'all think that I'm in the right for kicking him out after he's clearly disrespected the established boundaries and rules of our practice space? It's a goddamn shame what alcohol does to people when they abuse it. Our drummer was my best friend, hell he was the officiant of my wedding. I know it's not my responsibility at all to try and keep him on the straight and narrow, but lately I've kinda had to become his "strict dad"/sponsor because I genuinely do care about him and his mental health. The dude is clearly spiraling out of control.
So to make things short, any of y'all know any drummers in the DFW that need a band?
About 3 years ago I joined my best friend's band, they needed a bassist as he was moving to drums to replace their old drummer. I didn't really know how to play bass all too well but I said "hey fuck it why not" and joined in. I've learned a lot about playing bass, I've had a lot of fun, and we've made some pretty good music together. However, things have started to turn sour recently.
Usually at practice we'll split a 12 pack between the 3 of us, nothin wrong with getting a little loose. But eventually a 12 pack turned into a 24 pack, then a 24 pack into a 30 rack and a bottle of evan williams, and the drinking started becoming more important than the practice. Eventually it got to the point where I had to put my foot down, and talk the other guys into not having a ridiculous amount of alcohol at practice. They agreed, and while our guitarist has stuck by that our drummer (the best friend I mentioned earlier) has only gotten worse.
We implemented another rule as to not allow other people in our practice space while we're practicing. We got one buddy that pops in every now and again, but he doesn't interfere so we all agreed that it's cool if he's there. However, our drummer has started ignoring that rule and the "dont drink so much that you can't practice" rule.
A few weeks ago I walk in, theres a few extra people, our drummer is mildly wasted but sober enough to play halfway decent. We have a talk, try to re-establish the boundaries we've all set, and things are good. The next week, I walk in and there's even more people there and our drummer is chugging bottles and bottles of cheap aldi wine. He's obviously way too wasted to do fucking anything. So our guitarist and I did our best to get everyone out of there, make a bed for our drummer, then leave in hopes that maybe that night he fucked up so bad that he'd start reconsidering his actions.
Then LAST week happens. Our guitarist and I drive down to the practice space about 40 minutes outside our town, and we open the door to practically the entire fucking town in our practice space. Our drummer is taking shot after shot, drink after drink, so we just got the hell out of there. We have had this same discussion with our drummer multiple times now, and at this point he's left us no option but to kick him out.
Maybe I've given him too many chances, but do y'all think that I'm in the right for kicking him out after he's clearly disrespected the established boundaries and rules of our practice space? It's a goddamn shame what alcohol does to people when they abuse it. Our drummer was my best friend, hell he was the officiant of my wedding. I know it's not my responsibility at all to try and keep him on the straight and narrow, but lately I've kinda had to become his "strict dad"/sponsor because I genuinely do care about him and his mental health. The dude is clearly spiraling out of control.
So to make things short, any of y'all know any drummers in the DFW that need a band?
