things are messed up at home

[River]

ahhh dammit. i get dumb over the summer.

i'm not going to do anything rash, but it may end up with me living with other family. last year, the only thing gave me for my birthday is a book by mark levin - a conservative talk show host - called "liberty and tyranny" because i must just be an indoctrinated liberal. he can't even leave me and my differing opinions alone, along with personal differences, it's something he's ALWAYS picking at.

"Could be worse" sounds trite, but it could. My real father didn't pay even that much attention to me, except when he needed someone smaller than himself to beat on.

 

[Drew224]

"Could be worse" sounds trite, but it could. My real father didn't pay even that much attention to me, except when he needed someone smaller than himself to beat on.

i'm sorry to hear that.

 

[Wizzle]

Got any really close friends in real life with good parents? Let them know what's happening, if they're good people they'll keep a watchful eye on things and maybe let you stay at their house a lot. I speak from experience.

 

[Tozatron]

Hang in there, man. I know exactly how you feel. All you can do is do your best to keep your temper in check. If you lash out, it'll go downhill even worse.

 

[Fracture]

thanks, guys.

i hear you about being myself. i left before i could start yelling at him.

Admittedly I have not read the whole thread, but if you are already walking away
from a potential argument, that's pretty mature.
I always got along with my s/f, figured it was just easier.
What you might be feeling is a little jealousy, that he is getting alot of the attention from your mother, that was previously reserved for you.

 

[Drew224]

thanks guys, i have some close friends who's parents like me. they aren't entirely aware of what's going on though. if they heard me bitching, and knew more about my background, they might think less of me. there is too much doubt about people, and yes, this is an example of irony.

 

[Wizzle]

You're being a bit cryptic there, Drew. 'Splain?

 

[Drew224]

You're being a bit cryptic there, Drew. 'Splain?

my dad was abusive, my mom is an idiot, my step-dad is a redneck misogynist. my mom is an aberration for her side of the family. i didn't come out like she did. i think i may have been born with some common sense. but i digress, those aren't great things to have on a person resume. and i'm not trying to sound disparaging towards my parents, it's the truth.

 

[djwilbanks]

You know, Drew, if you used Apple products all of your troubles would disappear.

Don't worry too much, man. When you can't change anything you'll just get an aneurysm worrying over it. Might sound emo, but try to channel your feelings into your music and into other things. Find something to do that helps you forget about it.

Good luck, mang.

 

[River]

"Well, they're ain't no cure for the summertime blues...."

- Eddie Cochran.

 

[dennistruckdriver]

....i think i may have been born with some common sense....

 

[Drew224]

haha. i AM emo. i had to take up guitar because i was going nuts with everything else!

... needs entwhistle and moon.

 

[dennistruckdriver]

 

[Wizzle]

my dad was abusive, my mom is an idiot, my step-dad is a redneck misogynist. my mom is an aberration for her side of the family. i didn't come out like she did. i think i may have been born with some common sense. but i digress, those aren't great things to have on a person resume. and i'm not trying to sound disparaging towards my parents, it's the truth.

Ah, I get you. If you're friends' parents will judge you on that basis then fuck 'em. In that case my best advice would be to stay out of the house for as long as you can while your stepdad is there, if you're told to be back home at 10pm don't go home one minute earlier than you have to, speak when you're spoken to -be civil but not chatty- and spend as much time as you can in your room while you're at home. It might be difficult but don't butt in when your mother and stepdad are arguing unless you absolutely have to. Your mother should not be bringing this shit into your home -it is your home too, until you can legally and practically leave- but when things are calmer and she's on her own tell her what you think, how it affects you and offer all your help if she wants to change the situation.

 

[Drew224]

Ah, I get you. If you're friends' parents will judge you on that basis then fuck 'em. In that case my best advice would be to stay out of the house for as long as you can while your stepdad is there, if you're told to be back home at 10pm don't go home one minute earlier than you have to, speak when you're spoken to -be civil but not chatty- and spend as much time as you can in your room while you're at home. It might be difficult but don't butt in when your mother and stepdad are arguing unless you absolutely have to. Your mother should not be bringing this shit into your home -it is your home too, until you can legally and practically leave- but when things are calmer and she's on her own tell her what you think, how it affects you and offer all your help if she wants to change the situation.

i don't get in their stuff unless he's being too douchey... i understand. i do what i can, but i can't drive and not many of my friends live within walking distance, or that of a short bus ride, and i can't get a lot of rides.

 

[jomo]

I know you've heard it before, but it could always be worse. You could have a co-dependent mother that let your step-dad beat the sh!t out of you every other day and live in a time/place where no one would do anything about it. I'd say there's a lot of kids that would trade with you in a minute, I know I would have. Chin up, and toughen up emo boy. The sooner you realize that this is a f-ed up cruel world the better.

 

[Wizzle]

i don't get in their stuff unless he's being too douchey... i understand. i do what i can, but i can't drive and not many of my friends live within walking distance, or that of a short bus ride, and i can't get a lot of rides.

Your mother might be hating the situation as much as you, maybe more. Let her know how you feel and suggest the two of you GTFO and start over again minus the prick of a husband.

 

[Drew224]

Your mother might be hating the situation as much as you, maybe more. Let her know how you feel and suggest the two of you GTFO and start over again minus the prick of a husband.

i've talked to her about it. it's a waste of energy. she's dependent on what little money he makes. she can't get a good job. and i don't think she understands the way i see it. she was spoiled by her dad, her childhood was easy at home and hard outside of it. mine is the opposite.

 

[Drew224]

and yes, i realize it could be worse. i have a friend who has it twice as bad as i do. his dad sucks, and his mom spends so much on shoes, that she's moving him from a private school to a public school that sucks major ass. it's the worst in the city.

 

[Wizzle]

i've talked to her about it. it's a waste of energy. she's dependent on what little money he makes. she can't get a good job. and i don't think she understands the way i see it. she was spoiled by her dad, her childhood was easy at home and hard outside of it. mine is the opposite.

Gotta say, that sounds a tad selfish on her part. Is your grandfather still around? Maybe he could give the wto of you a roof for a while.