Siblings you refuse to be around...

Roxy13

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My mother laments that we don't get along, but no one gets along with my sister :rofl: She will go months without speaking to our mother as well and my mother has done everything for her. I don't really care that she's hated me since she was about 2 years old, but I do care that she treats our parents so badly. We were very lucky to grow up as we did with the parents we have. And we are lucky now that both our parents are still alive as well.

My sister does have a husband, who is the male version of her and together they gang up on whoever is around to start fights. Of course all day they fight with each other too, but when you have 2 people constantly seeking strife and drama of course you are going to have that :laugh2:

I did finally tell my mom one day that she knows what it's like to have crazy siblings and she admitted she does.
 

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It is what it is @TheX. Unfortunate, but you can’t save em all.
 

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My sister is a nutcase and anytime I am with her is pretty miserable for me. She wants to start constant arguments over idiotic things. I got my niece a guitar last spring so that's the last time I saw my sister. She kept insisting my truck was not 17 years old (now it's 18) and refused to accept the regisration as proof. Then she started screaming at me that I should not have sold my previous truck (which has been gone since 2005 and if it is still on the road is now 28 years old lol). Then she said I was full of shit and never had a Mustang (I had it for 5.5 years and drove it to her house several times). Then she accused me of stealiing a viola from her when she was in college. When she was in college I either was as well or I was living on the other end of Ohio. I certainly never stole anything from her.

So that is what it's like to be around my sister and quite honestly if I never had to see her again I don't think I would mind at all.

Ay-yi-yi.. What a nut case.

My sister and I were once headed up to Nor Cal for my grandmother's funeral.

We are going through San Francisco, a trip I've made many times. I'm headed to the Golden Gate Bridge. My sister was practically yelling at me and pounding her fists that we were headed in the wrong direction.

Right then, there was a sign on the side of the road to the right, it said "Golden Gate" bridge, with an arrow pointing in the direction I was driving.

Still, she insisted I was going the wrong way.

..She'd rather had been lost than wrong.
 

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I have three sisters...

One is a boozy redneck who lives in Sumter County, Florida. I don't have much to do with her, though there's no animosity there. She simply lives in another part of the state, lives a completely different lifestyle from my own... and we were never close to begin with. But she's always friendly when I *do* see her.

Sister #2 lives right here in my hometown. I probably only see her about three to five times per year, and talk to her on the phone about a half-dozen times per year. She's a happy kind of lady, and we are very close-- though we don't hang out, and once again it's kind of a lifestyle thing. She hangs with a bunch of other Merry Widow types, mostly in casinos and shit like that.

And then there's Sister #3... :p

This sister is a person I haven't even spoken to since I was about 12. She split from the family that long ago, and there was apparently some degree of animosity between her and the entire rest of the family (except for myself). I spent a lot of years being pissed off and hurt that she wouldn't even contact me, but then I finally got over it. Sometimes people become estranged, end of story, all that's left to do is shrug.

I did become curious enough about her to dig her ass up via Internet research, and was absolutely tickled by what I learned about her. I never would have seen this coming when I was a kid and she was still around... but somehow it makes sense, given the sort of top spin the lady was always good for... :hmm:

So: she's a cult leader, up in Michigan somewhere. She's the boss lady of some sort of commune, about one dozen deep, and her followers appear to believe her to be the reincarnation of an extremely prominent female religious icon.

Like, they actually worship her. It's almost like Mary Ann MacLean and the Foundation or something.

So that's pretty freaky-- but again, I'm not so shocked by this as I am amused.

Man, her followers do *not* want to hear about some of the shit I saw her getting into back when we were all kids! :laugh2:

--R :p
 

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Indeed, my family isn’t close but we don’t hate each other. Im a blessed man
Same here.
Family used to be based in the LA area, but in the 60s we all kinda' went our separate ways... Dad's brother moved his brood to Grass Valley/Auburn (I always looked forward to trips to visit Uncle Ed), Mom's sister's family moved to Rio Linda (all I remember from those trips was it was flat, nothing growing, and houses seemed like they were a block apart). I'm not sure what happened to my cousins on mom's brother's side... her brother remained in LA until he died in the mid 80s.

Brother floated around the country managing chemical plants for Allied, Hooker, and Lonza after teaching at TCU for a while after he got his doctorate. Sister's family moved to Georgia in the early 90s.
Mom and dad moved from CA to Austin after my brother retired and settled in to Georgetown TX.
So I'm the last of the family (that I know of) remaining in SoCal. I have no idea if my aunt is still alive or not, her son appears to have taken over the church that my uncle ran.
Sister's kids and grandkids are scattered across the south from Dallas to Atlanta, brother never had any kids... at least non that weren't covered in fur with pom-pom hair styles :rofl:
I saw people I didn't recognize and haven't seen in 40+ years at Dad's funeral.
 

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I have five sisters. Every time we speak, we end the conversation with "I love you." This dates back to when I started this practice in the '80s.* Literally, every conversation ends with "I love you."

When I speak to my kids, this is the same way we end any conversation (in person (i.e. departing) or on the phone). Literally, every conversation ends with "I love you." Even my 22 year old son responds this way.

I accept all of them for who they are. I love them all, unconditionally. I like to think that knowing that may help them in some way.

The only person who has lost the privilege of being told "I love you" by me is my ex.**




*I must admit that my dad was a huge proponent of family loyalty and unconditional love.
**And she is the beneficiary of having her kids tell her, every time they speak, that they love her (not something that would ever happen in her family).
 
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I have two older brothers. We were animals together as kids, but united against social order.

Today we live states apart. We’re all old geezer animals now.

We love each other. Time and distance suck. We don’t have any resentments.
Two of us have lost wives to cancer in the last ten years.

My oldest is a genius piano player, but always drove trucks and buses, happily.
The middle bro was athletic. Eventually I refused to catch his fast ball. I watched it go down the street. I suppose that was our last game of catch, about 60 years ago or such.

They both got 4 year College degrees, but never worked their fields.
I did much better as a wage earner.

We’re still family.
 

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Reading some of these stories makes me realize I’m luckier than I even knew.

I have one brother, 2.5 years older. He was an incorrigible jerk when we were young, but once I grew bigger than him, around the time I was 14, we became thick as thieves.

Played in bands together for over 20 years, still do. Were roommates for awhile after I graduated from college and still live in the same city.

I had to relocate temporarily in Dec to take care of some things with my wife’s family and this is the longest I’ve gone without seeing my brother in person in my lifetime.

I consider myself extremely lucky that we are so close and get along so well. :thumb:
 

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Probably worth mentioning, if you disrespected any of my sisters in high school, we were going to fight. Chances are, I had more vested in the dispute and I had a greater commitment to seeing things to their proper end.

Over the past 50 years, there have been very, very few instances of someone disrespecting one of my sisters.
 

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My brother and I loved our parents to death and have gone through two very terrible losses with both of them. Long drawn out crap. It was a struggle at times for our relationship. We just lost Mom about 3 weeks ago. We've never gotten along better.
 

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I'm the youngest of 5, I live in a different country to my siblings.
2 half brothers and a half sister, haven't spoken to or seen any of them in around 5 years, and dont plan to change that any time soon. They burned that bridge.
Always in contact with my full brother, when I visit home to see my folks he always travels to be there too
 

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One brother, two years younger. We live 4 states away but text almost daily - late 50’s guys texting. He comes up to visit and help with projects a few times a year. His wife and I haven’t ever gotten along, but I don’t bad mouth her. Our parents passed several years ago and estate setting was devoid of drama. He’s a great guy - honest, funny, practical skills - lucky to have him as a brother.

If this was about cousins…
 

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i don't have any sisters.

my dad was a bad pitcher apparently, all balls, no strikes.

i had two sons as well, my fantasy football team is always names "all balls".
 

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There is one among us siblings who can be difficult to tolerate. Standing rules are grin and bear it and keep your yap shut.
 

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I just have the one brother, three years older than me. He was always a bully to me, and just a thoughtless selfish person. 25 years ago, I moved a couple hours away. It’s better for our relationship that we only see each other a couple of times a year, Christmas and maybe sometime in the summer. There’s been a couple of very bad stretches where we were on the outs, not speaking to each other at all for a year or more. Late 2017, my dad was getting sick a lot, and my brother and I had a big blowout. Christmas came, and he refused to come to my parents house when I was there, even though our argument was really his fault. My mom begged him to come, she said it might be our dad’s final Christmas, please put this stuff aside, he refused. Dad’s health went south about a week after that, and we lost him February 1st. It kind of put things in perspective about what matters and what doesn’t. I try my best to get along with him now for the sake of my mother, she does it need that kind of crap from the two of us at this point in her life.
 


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