Relationship stereotype questions

[Ledheadforlife]

wives seem to believe they are moms and in charge of their "adult child" I dont get this.

This is exactly how my marriage is, but I wouldnt change a thing. I like being taken care of. Mom used to do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and pay all the bills etc, and now my wife does. All I gotta do is cut the grass and take out the garbage. Luckily I don't care too much about alot of the day to day decisions so I let her think she is "in charge" most of the time, and as a result she does try to treat me like a "junior partner" sometimes, but I put my foot down when I have to. Cool thing is, since I let her make most of the decisions, she feels compelled to let me have my way when we do disagree.

 

[Hamtone]

I agree couples should take care of one another but i be damned that anyone treats me like im their child nor would i want them to habe that burden. I have seen friends with true fear that their wives are going to be pissed over not kissing the ring right. As the fat wife sits on her ass watching reality tv and stuck in fb land.

Or even worse guys who start with being a kiss ass to get laid, then get stuck being a supplicant.

 

[Thumpalumpacus]

They get what they settle for. Like you, I won't settle for that. It's good to be single sometimes.

 

[Penny Dreadful]

Its tough to be a man baby!

Marriage is an outdated custom.
Men, whos very genetic code tells us to spread our seed, have to settle for one woman.
It goes against our hard wire.

Women marry a man hoping to change him. Men get married and hope the woman never changes.

We are doomed fellas. I love my wife dearly, but if I had to do it all over again I would never get married. I am too much of a loner and enjoy my freedom. I took a vow and I will keep that vow, but over the years I have realized, I am not a fan of marriage.

Hang in there Hamtone, you are not alone my friend. lol

 

[morrow]

We are doomed fellas. I love my wife dearly, but if I had to do it all over again I would never get married. I am too much of a loner and enjoy my freedom. I took a vow and I will keep that vow, but over the years I have realized, I am not a fan of marriage.

jesus

 

[JMV]

Sheesh, Deepblue. I couldn't disagree with you more.

You honestly think men were designed to "spread our seed" and that marriage is outdated? I guess I've just always been a one woman kind of guy. And I love it.

 

[Penny Dreadful]

jesus

No, but thank you.

Sheesh, Deepblue. I couldn't disagree with you more.

You honestly think men were designed to "spread our seed" and that marriage is outdated? I guess I've just always been a one woman kind of guy. And I love it

Its a fact. It is in out genetic code to reproduce.
Dont get me wrong, I love my wife, but I am a person who if I had to do it over again would not marry anyone.

 

[JMV]

Its a fact. It is in out genetic code to reproduce....

Uh, I hesitate to ask, but...source?

 

[Penny Dreadful]

Uh, I hesitate to ask, but...source?

We are mammals, and it is in our genetic code to reproduce.
I didnt think it was going to be this deep a topic. lol
Science calls it "The biological imperative"

 

[Deftone]

My wife and I are both very independent. Neither of us wants or needs to be taken care of by anyone.

Sure, if one of us is sick or injured we'll take care of each other, but not on a regular basis. I wouldn't respect her if she behaved like that, and she wouldn't respect me if I did either.

 

[Thumpalumpacus]

Uh, I hesitate to ask, but...source?

As predicted by the theory of parental investment (Trivers, 1972), a result of this difference between the sexes is that females are more often the ‘‘choosier’’ sex and males usually compete for sexual access to females. This differential minimum parental investment has affected men’s and women’s mating strategies such that men and women are today designed to minimize costs and maximize benefits accordingly. Men who pursued mating arrangements and strategies that included casual sex with a variety of women might have experienced relatively greater reproductive success than men who did not pursue such arrangements and strategies (Buss, 2003; Symons, 1979). The equivalent cannot be said of women, as an ancestral woman who casually mated with a variety of men would likely have produced fewer offspring than a man who mated with as many women in the same time period. It therefore has been predicted and documented that men are more psychologically attuned to, and interested in, opportunities for casual mating, than are women (see Buss, 2004, for a review).

[Emphasis added by yours truly.]

http://home.utah.edu/~u0525361/Offprint-final.pdf

 

[Jakeislove]

Women must not have read that study because about 10% of children end up being from extramarital affairs.

 

[Thumpalumpacus]

Women must not have read that study because about 10% of children end up being from extramarital affairs.

... and you must not have read it, because that is addressed in the report.

Also, you'll notice that it isn't claimed that women "aren't interested." You need to learn reading, thinking, or both, really.

 

[Jakeislove]

Also,

Deepblue isn't alone. I probably only know two men who would marry their wives again.

 

[Jakeislove]

... and you must not have read it, because that is addressed in the report.

It's been studied to death since the 50s. I call it being a Ho, people interested in sexual anthropology claim women figure guys who may be good providers but have bad or ugly DNA, so they cheat to imProve their chances of having healthy, cute babies.

Let's face it: nobody wants an ugly baby.

 

[Thumpalumpacus]

Actually, the urge to mate with a beautiful or handsome partner is probably driven by subconscious metrics of fitness.

 

[TeleDog]

"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need." -Tyler Durden

No, we're trained, that's a different thing... I'm glad they do BTW...

 

[Jakeislove]

Actually, the urge to mate with a beautiful or handsome partner is probably driven by subconscious metrics of fitness.

Your DNA has a better chance to move forward with a healthy mate.

 

[Thumpalumpacus]

Your DNA has a better chance to move forward with a healthy mate.

Exactly.

 

[Penny Dreadful]

Studies have shown that men are attracted to big boobs because it makes the woman appear to look healthier and able to nurture.
I know this stuff sounds loopy, but there are parts of the male brain that have been pre-programmed for 200,000 years. Its for survival and to procreate.

Look at dogs. Do you ever wonder why they turn in a circle before the lay down?
Prehistoric dogs in the wild did that to trample the tall grass before resting.
Its now in their hard wire.