Blues4U
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Tonight, I took my son and wife to Monster Jam in Indy (Monster Truck show) We went because my 7 year old son is a Cub Scout and the scouts got a deal on tickets--
Anyway-Lucas Oil Stadium holds 63,000+ people and it was sold out and at Maximum Capacity tonight-
We are moving through the crowd after the show, and as usual, I am barking orders at my son, ensuring he doesn't get separated from me-Either me or my wife had a hand on him the entire time (there is a reason for this) Once we get out of the building, we were on the walkway to the street, when I spotted a little boy about my sons age-Showing the tell tale signs of being lost/separated from his family-Walking in circles, tears in his eyes and ready to have a full blown break down-He made eye contact with me and I said "are you lost? Did you get separated from your parents?" to which he sobbed "yes"
This is all happening as literally thousands of people are rushing by - There was a large, wrought iron gateway there and I said "come here and let us help you" He really wanted to go looking for his parents and I explained that we wouldn't touch him or try to take him anywhere, but he needed to stay right where he got separated, as his parents would come back there looking for him.
Then I realized, I am 6'2", 240, wearing somewhat dark clothing, wearing a Notre Dame cap and I had glasses and a Goatee-- I figured I may be a bit menacing looking to him-
My wife, who is much better looking than I, was wearing brightly colored clothing, looked like a happy mom, and my son was his age and his size-
I told him to stay put with my family, and I would go get a policeman and then, if his parents weren't back, we would make sure they found his parents-
He reluctantly agreed to stay put while I went to find a policeman.
I had to back track about 50 yards through the crowd to find a police officer-
As I was walking up to him, and said "excuse me" he cut me off and asked if I was John-- I said "no, but my wife is with a lost little boy and I need you to come to him, as he it petrified. He told me, yours is the second one, at this gate.
He followed me back to my family, and when we arrived my wife informed us that his dad had just came back and taken him- I told the officer thank you for coming with me and I was sorry to inconvenience him-
Here's where I start to get pissed-
I asked how the reunion went-
My wife told me, the guy came up, sort of got pissy with the boy and told him "I told you to stay close to me" and then said "thanks" as he was walking away scolding the kid-
Here is where some of you might get pissed at me, but when it comes to this crap, I am old school-
As a father and husband--any man worth a damn, must always be prepared to do whatever it takes to secure the safety and well being of his family-
You must instill, from an early age, that all of your kids will always follow your lead, and listen to you in a crowd, or un-familiar environment.
This boy was slightly shorter than my son-My son is 49 1/2 inches tall (he is 7 and tells me this often) We were in a sea of humans that mostly range from 5'6" to 6'6", in the dark, and everybody moving briskly-
Although kids will wonder, as a father/husband, you must ensure your child or wife stays with the group and never is out of contact, not ever, when you are in situations such as this-
My wife is 5'2" and I am 6'2" and I can lose her in a big crowd easily-
My son always wants to do his own thing, and walk ahead or behind as he thinks he is a big boy--When appropriate, I allow this, as it is part of being a little man--BUT, at dark, in a crowd of 65,000, this is the time to be in physical touch with your family every instance until the crowd thins out---
My son wasn't liking that either his mother, or I, had a hold of his jacket or hand, the entire way through this giant cluster-BUT, he knows the deal, and he followed my rules--And I did my duty by ensuring we stayed together as a group-
I am pissed about a few things---Obviously, this father has never discussed with his son, what to do if he gets separated in a crowd---ALL PARENTS MUST DO THIS--
Secondly, HE never seriously thought about how HE should ensure his son's safety in such an environment- His words of "I told you to keep up" piss me off and I wasn't there when he said them-He should have slowed down, kept a hand on his son, and ensured his safety- His son could be in the back of a van, being raped by a pedophile-Luckily, a decent human helped his son-
AND, he never really gave a real thank you to my wife--- A casual "thanks" as you are walking away--is chickenshit- A "Thank you very much for staying with my son and keeping him calm" should have been the least any person with a shred of manners should have said-
I guess here is my point--
As a man, as a father and as a husband, your family should know, in no uncertain terms, You WIll Always Be there for them and you will not allow any harm to come to them and you will die to defend them if need be---
I am not "authoritarian, a hole father figure" but my kids and wife know who is in charge in such environs---Its ME---We go when I say go, we stop when I say stop, and if the need arises, we run when I say run--No freakin questions asked!
The kid was a kid---left to their own devices, not many of them will live past 10----Its our job to make sure they do---A parent must always assume, a little kid is going to do the foolish or stupid thing--Therefore, we must put mechanisms in place to combat this design flaw---
Jesus, I am still pissed about this--
Sorry for the rant---
Anyway-Lucas Oil Stadium holds 63,000+ people and it was sold out and at Maximum Capacity tonight-
We are moving through the crowd after the show, and as usual, I am barking orders at my son, ensuring he doesn't get separated from me-Either me or my wife had a hand on him the entire time (there is a reason for this) Once we get out of the building, we were on the walkway to the street, when I spotted a little boy about my sons age-Showing the tell tale signs of being lost/separated from his family-Walking in circles, tears in his eyes and ready to have a full blown break down-He made eye contact with me and I said "are you lost? Did you get separated from your parents?" to which he sobbed "yes"
This is all happening as literally thousands of people are rushing by - There was a large, wrought iron gateway there and I said "come here and let us help you" He really wanted to go looking for his parents and I explained that we wouldn't touch him or try to take him anywhere, but he needed to stay right where he got separated, as his parents would come back there looking for him.
Then I realized, I am 6'2", 240, wearing somewhat dark clothing, wearing a Notre Dame cap and I had glasses and a Goatee-- I figured I may be a bit menacing looking to him-
My wife, who is much better looking than I, was wearing brightly colored clothing, looked like a happy mom, and my son was his age and his size-
I told him to stay put with my family, and I would go get a policeman and then, if his parents weren't back, we would make sure they found his parents-
He reluctantly agreed to stay put while I went to find a policeman.
I had to back track about 50 yards through the crowd to find a police officer-
As I was walking up to him, and said "excuse me" he cut me off and asked if I was John-- I said "no, but my wife is with a lost little boy and I need you to come to him, as he it petrified. He told me, yours is the second one, at this gate.
He followed me back to my family, and when we arrived my wife informed us that his dad had just came back and taken him- I told the officer thank you for coming with me and I was sorry to inconvenience him-
Here's where I start to get pissed-
I asked how the reunion went-
My wife told me, the guy came up, sort of got pissy with the boy and told him "I told you to stay close to me" and then said "thanks" as he was walking away scolding the kid-
Here is where some of you might get pissed at me, but when it comes to this crap, I am old school-
As a father and husband--any man worth a damn, must always be prepared to do whatever it takes to secure the safety and well being of his family-
You must instill, from an early age, that all of your kids will always follow your lead, and listen to you in a crowd, or un-familiar environment.
This boy was slightly shorter than my son-My son is 49 1/2 inches tall (he is 7 and tells me this often) We were in a sea of humans that mostly range from 5'6" to 6'6", in the dark, and everybody moving briskly-
Although kids will wonder, as a father/husband, you must ensure your child or wife stays with the group and never is out of contact, not ever, when you are in situations such as this-
My wife is 5'2" and I am 6'2" and I can lose her in a big crowd easily-
My son always wants to do his own thing, and walk ahead or behind as he thinks he is a big boy--When appropriate, I allow this, as it is part of being a little man--BUT, at dark, in a crowd of 65,000, this is the time to be in physical touch with your family every instance until the crowd thins out---
My son wasn't liking that either his mother, or I, had a hold of his jacket or hand, the entire way through this giant cluster-BUT, he knows the deal, and he followed my rules--And I did my duty by ensuring we stayed together as a group-
I am pissed about a few things---Obviously, this father has never discussed with his son, what to do if he gets separated in a crowd---ALL PARENTS MUST DO THIS--
Secondly, HE never seriously thought about how HE should ensure his son's safety in such an environment- His words of "I told you to keep up" piss me off and I wasn't there when he said them-He should have slowed down, kept a hand on his son, and ensured his safety- His son could be in the back of a van, being raped by a pedophile-Luckily, a decent human helped his son-
AND, he never really gave a real thank you to my wife--- A casual "thanks" as you are walking away--is chickenshit- A "Thank you very much for staying with my son and keeping him calm" should have been the least any person with a shred of manners should have said-
I guess here is my point--
As a man, as a father and as a husband, your family should know, in no uncertain terms, You WIll Always Be there for them and you will not allow any harm to come to them and you will die to defend them if need be---
I am not "authoritarian, a hole father figure" but my kids and wife know who is in charge in such environs---Its ME---We go when I say go, we stop when I say stop, and if the need arises, we run when I say run--No freakin questions asked!
The kid was a kid---left to their own devices, not many of them will live past 10----Its our job to make sure they do---A parent must always assume, a little kid is going to do the foolish or stupid thing--Therefore, we must put mechanisms in place to combat this design flaw---
Jesus, I am still pissed about this--
Sorry for the rant---
--Little shit head--
