I need to vent just a little bit

[TwangyTele]

So my brother is leaving to go to college and I am having all of these strange emotions! I am obviously going to miss him, but not as much as playing music with him because we where so cohesive with each other. It also makes me feel weird because as I walk in the back yard, and see all of the lumps in the grass from when we would play tackle football in the back yard, and all of the chips in the fence from when we would pitch baseballs in the backyard, reminds me that I wont have anyone to play catch with for the next couple years. And all of these piles of music gear that get used a bunch, but that wont see any jamming or songwriting for a while, I feel like I am in a place I have never been before and it is freaking me out!



Have any of you guys experienced these kind of nostalgic feelings of a brother/sister/close friend moving away? How did you deal with it?

 

[River]

What you do is praise the heavens that all they're doing is leaving for a little while.

 

[apocalypsebob]

people come and go more often than you think, you deal with it

keep doing your thing and concerning yourself with what is important in your life and you'll be fine

just because your brother is taking off for a bit doesn't mean your life will fall apart, it only falls apart if you want it to

all the same applies when someone breaks up with you, or someone dies....you deal with it and move on and that is really all there is to it

 

[Benjammin]

my sister and I werent that close when she went off to college, and as time has passed we've grown even further apart. Sounds like you guys have a better relationship than that, hopefully it will all work out in the end. How far away is his school?

 

[TwangyTele]

only 2000 miles away!

Like I said, I will miss him a little bit, but all of the activities we did together where we really worked well together that dont happen anymore, like sports or music, thats what I feel like I am really going to miss

 

[Penny Dreadful]

It's a reminder of how fast life is going. We remember the family events and the good times, and now time has caught up. It is very bitter sweet, but it will get easier I assure you. John Lennon said it best. "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."

 

[Job-Job type Job]

What you do is praise the heavens that all they're doing is leaving for a little while.

There ya go. I remember those kind of days with my own siblings. Growing pains. Luckily, we still have each other.

 

[Benjammin]

only 2000 miles away!

Like I said, I will miss him a little bit, but all of the activities we did together where we really worked well together that dont happen anymore, like sports or music, thats what I feel like I am really going to miss

True, but I mean, school is a limited time thing, unless he stays 2000 miles away after he graduates, you should be able to do all those same things you always did. Of course you won't be young then, but hey, thats the way it goes haha

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EVeeR41aGw"]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EVeeR41aGw[/ame]

 

[twst1up]

True, but I mean, school is a limited time thing, unless he stays 2000 miles away after he graduates...

i never went back after college...it's been 20 years since i started school at WVU, and i'm still in WV

all things must pass...indeed

you're growing up my man, i hope no one told you it will be easy, 'cause it sho nuff ain't.

you'll find your relationship with your brother will evolve, your bond will grown even stronger

 

[Roberteaux]

Have any of you guys experienced these kind of nostalgic feelings of a brother/sister/close friend moving away? How did you deal with it?

Oh, you bet we did!

When I left to begin my service with the US Army, one of my buddies really bummed out about it. We had been running together for three years straight, did everything together, fought on the same side, even had a girlfriend that kept breaking up with one of us to return to the other-- a thing we actually laughed about and which never caused either of us to be upset with the other. We were too close to quarrel over some girl who couldn't make her mind up, and somehow knew that she wouldn't be sticking with either of us forever anyway.

To this day, I get a bittersweet sensation going every time I think about those great, heady, teenaged years we shared together. And so what I do is this: about once a month I pick up the phone and call him. And that's as good as it could be, since 1976... but it's way better than nothing.

Time moves on, whether we're ready or not. What you are feeling right now is nothing new, really. You have now joined the club!

--R

 

[Benjammin]

i never went back after college...it's been 20 years since i started school at WVU, and i'm still in WV

in my case, I was the one to move 3000 miles away, and never went back My sister went to a school 15 minutes away from our house, but insisted on living in a dorm haha

 

[Leendrix]

I can only imagine how you feel Jesse.

My sister and I are best friends. I don't know what I would do without her right now. But that's to figure out when one of us moves out first.

Don't hold any emotions in right now. Talk to your brother about it, and then he'll understand you guys need to spend more time together before he leaves. This is just going to make you guys closer!

 

[River]

Time moves on, whether we're ready or not. What you are feeling right now is nothing new, really. You have now joined the club!

 

[River]

Don't hold any emotions in right now. Talk to your brother about it, and then he'll understand you guys need to spend more time together before he leaves. This is just going to make you guys closer!

Such wisdom from my leetle friend.

Proud of ya, Lee.

 

[snaredrum]

me and my brother are seven years apart (me older) and very close. we both play music - although different kinds really - so bonded over that, and it turns out we like a lot of the same stupid stuff as well.

i have two things tattooed over my heart - the scottish flag, and my brother's initials. seriously.

i feel for you man.

 

[GitFiddle]

I had two older brothers leave home for college. My oldest brother has since passed away unexpectedly at 47. Cherish the time you had and have. You will grow and be stronger. Be thankful he's just going to college and not to Afghanistan.

Your thread makes me think of this song:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9sldgunY3Fw&feature=related]Bob Dylan - Forever young (with lyrics on screen) - YouTube[/ame]


Its a great song, but just remember its from the 60s so it can't be all that good. (see what I did there?)

 

[Leendrix]

Such wisdom from my leetle friend.

Proud of ya, Lee.

Ah, shucks!

laugh2

 

[acstorfer]

I wish I had a close bond with my sisters. When they went off to college, sadly I don't remember missing either even a bit. One passed almost two years ago, ****ing drugs (normally I would use a symbol as a vowel in a curse word, but in this case, f*ck it!)! I tried to see what I could do, after the fact to possibly reconnect with my sister in some way. Her husband is an ex(?) alcoholic/drug addict and my two nephews never knew what normalcy was. Unfortunately, my brother in law having a lethal mixture of arrogance and ignorance made it a battle everytime I wanted change. So what they went from D's and F's to A's in school, so what they started making friends, so what their house was becoming somewhat clean, so what they were eating home cooked meals everyday and lost weight and got better complexions? He just wasn't on board, and they are his kids, so rather than cry every night about how sad their lives were, I left. God, I am sick that I left, but it got REALLY bad!

Anyway, sorry I'm venting. The point is, stay close with your brother, no matter the miles! I wasn't close with my sister and I put myself in an entirely impossible situation trying to make up for it. If I was closer, perhaps she wouldn't have overdosed? If I was closer, perhaps my nephews would have a more functional lives? Perhaps if I was closer, I might have had a happier life? Don't live with perhaps! Stay close with your brother! In this age of technology, even multi-daily video conferencing is actually easy and cheap if not free (who knew growing up watching the Jetsons that this would actually happen?).

I know you have no intentions of losing touch with your bro. And even though he's going away, and will be meeting new people and changing his life, it sounds like your bonds will test both time and distance. Man, I really wish I could experience the sadness you are going through. You are quite fortunate and I am VERY jelous! Just please don't let your life, and don't let your brother's life get so full of the everyday bullish*t that you let your bond slip.

Sorry for the rant, I hate when people get preachy here, but I kinda had to get some things out. Hope you understand.

 

[i am wet]

I'm leaving in a few days, I don't think my sister will miss me too much, and I'm only going to be 2 hours away so it's not very far.

I just feel bad for my best friend of 15 years, he's staying in town, going to Community College I'm heading out to do new stuff.

 

[Eric Smith]

When you think about it, it is refreshing and healthy that you are having these feelings. If you didn't then you might need to be worried since you probably wouldn't be able to say that you have such a close bond.

My son is about to turn 18 this month and start his senior year of high school. While he hasn't said exactly what it is that he is planning on doing after high school, college, trade school or taking the opprotunity to partner with a friend of his in a farming venture, I imagine that his mother and I will be full of emotion when he does decide to spread his wings and move out.