Good Thoughts For Daughter #2

[Nicky]

Some of you know that daughter #2 is a forensic scientist at a world renowned crime lab. This morning, she called her mother and was distraught over a case.

Last night, she was called to a crime scene - triple homicide, extremely violent. She has dealt with this before, but the police did not advise her that one of the victims was a four year old. She struggled a bit, at first, but performed her job professionally and by the book. The crime scene investigation took nine hours, so she was there all night. When she got home this morning, she was a wreck.

We are grateful that she called to talk it over. She has counseling available to her, and we recommended that she discuss this with a psychologist. She said this really tested her, but that tomorrow was another day at work where she will manage the evidence processing to assist the other LEOs with their jobs.

I'm really hurting for her now, but want to be supportive of her chosen career. She's a lovely girl, and I hate that she is exposed to the worst aspects of human existence. I don't know what else I can tell her.

Here's our little girl at work.

 

[redcoats1976]

that has to be a tough job no matter who the victim is,but a four year old.geez.

 

[BuzzHaze]

Wow...she's one strong gal. I wouldn't be able to deal with that kind of thing at all. She got a tough job for sure. You must have done something right to produce such a great woman

 

[Leendrix]

I'm so sorry she had to see that. But, it's good she's already talking about it.

 

[Eball92]

A very unfortunate world out there, good luck to her, I hope her psych recovers from that shock. Its the type of thing that will always be permanent. It will always hurt and never go away. but hopefully it gets better.

all the best your daughters, your families and your way Nicky.

 

[Nicky]

Sometimes, I think that emotional pain is worse than the physical kind. That's why this makes my heart ache. She lives in another state, so dad feels helpless because he ain't there to hold her.

This little girl had chemo from age two to six, and hardly complained. I guess that's why she's so tough (and why she chose molecular science as a career).

 

[Kashmir]

She has an excellent job, but that must be brutal to experience. Much worse in reality than reading about it or seeing it in the news. What she does is a great service to the public and the police. Hopefully she'll just get used to the horror of it, and hopefully she won't have to see it all that often.

 

[Alligatorbling]

unfortunate she had to see that. the times ive seen children pass, or that have passed has always shaken me extra hard.

she is very lucky to have parents who are so supportive and proud of her.

 

[Howard2k]

Wow. I couldn't even imagine how horrific that may be.

 

[Nicky]

unfortunate she had to see that. the times ive seen children pass, or that have passed has always shaken me extra hard.

she is very lucky to have parents who are so supportive and proud of her.

I know, from some of what you have shared on MLP, that you also have a challenging job. I really admire you and others who are in the healthcare environment, and also to those in law enforcement.

Bless you all.

 

[E1WOOD5150]

Good luck to her. Talking about it is most likely the best thing to do. Be supportive, make sure she talks to the counselors available to her, and make sure she knows that if she needs to vent, Daddy's got her back. Then just let her cry, scream, cuss, fuss or just get weird.

 

[huffdaddy]

Nicky, I have over 25 years in trauma.
As a rule, I don't discuss it in open forum, but feel free to send me a p.m., if you need some advice.

 

[HeartString]

It must be brutal for her to have to deal with something like that. Prayers out to you both. Sorry you have to experience it.

 

[KP]

Tell her to hang tough and best thoughts from an old once upon a time LEO.

 

[rockstar232007]

Thoughts and prayers sent, Nicky. I can't imagine how she's feeling right now, but we're all here for you/her.

I actually took prep-classes in HS, for FS, but learned early on that there was no way in hell I would have been able to maintain the sort of emotional/mental stability required to make any sort of career out of it.

Good luck, and God bless.

 

[PapaSquash]

Prayers, thoughts, well-wishes, karmic good intent, or whatever you want to call it. From me to her - it's all I got.

I can barely hold on to my humanity as it is sometimes, I'd never be able to do that, I'd lose it.

 

[Chicago John]

Very sorry to hear that, Nicky. Best wishes for her well being.

 

[442 SLASH]

Damn thats rough. Very tough line of work, very few people have the heart for it. One of my best mates is an EMT and he's seen his fair amount of things like this, it can really hit people hard. My best wishes for your daughter.

 

[X–Ray]

Good advice from a loving parent...

 

[tazzboy]

yeah that is not something you easily prepared for is seeing dead children or children about to die.

She should try to reach out to one of her fellow ME or Supervisor about this and talk about it. Cause I am sure they have been through themselves and give her advice on how to deal with it.