For those with kids (drug related)

[OHIOSTEVE]

Thanks everyone... Our house is full right now. I was just informed the entire funeral service has been paid for. Not sure how or by who. I appreciate it even tthough it was unnecessary. My wife and our oldest son are making decisions on the funeral some of which I am not 100% on board with but my wife talked to him regularly and knew his wants. He is being cremated. No viewing at all not even privately. My wife does not want anyone to see him because he was in bad shape. I understand her not wanting to because I don't want to. I don't understand her refusal to let anyone see him but I am not gonna argue. I have family throwing a fit over it. They are gonna have to get over it. It will be done the way she wants. I appreciate all of your responses. PLEASE if your kids are at home hug em... If they are not at home call em.... Jake was in jail. We have tried to help him any way we could. We started refusing his calls from jail. He called my wife 5 times yesterday and she didn't answer.... It was always the same BS. She is REALLY beating herself up.

 

[Bobby Mahogany]

Wow, what a shock!

Sorry for your loss, Man.
Thanks for sharing his/your story. As we often say, if it can help one person,
it's more than worth it.

Our daughter is slowly growing up. 8 1/2 now.
But I've already begun to think/fear about her eventually going to parties at 14 or 15
and getting drugged, either knowingly or not, by some low life scum who would then
probably abuse her in some room.
We read too many stories like that.
I try to make sure I get to know the boys in her class and around and establish some kind of rapport with them
in order to know the good ones from the bad ones and eventually be able to get respect or intervene or even threaten if needed...
I might sound a little crazy here but I'd rather come off as crazy to the boys and inspire fear than let things go and regret it.

But I'm also conscious that however we "plan" it, life can throw a curve ball. I hope I can catch it if it happens.

Again, all my sympathies to you and your family.

 

[Guitarhack]

I'm very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

I see the hold that addiction has on some of the inmates that are housed at my facility. There's honestly nothing you can say or do to them to break them of the habit. Short of locking them down 24/7.

 

[freak]

so sorry for your loss.

and like stated above, you aren't comic relief.

hope you find peace.

 

[scott1970]

I wish there was something I could say or do to help y'all, but I know there isn't. I am very sorry.

 

[Crotch]

Holy **** man. That's all I got. Well besides this. Lost my best friend to the stuff. Somehow we were still best friends up till the end even though I didn't ever do it. And he respected my beliefs enough to not do it with me around. It's been 12 years. Just saw his daughter who is now 15. Beautiful girl and looks identical to him. I wept on the spot. Hits home for me. It's bull****. My condolences

 

[CRobbins]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm in shock.

 

[G Man]

horrible news Steve, so sorry to hear.

What pisses me off about the whole heroin thing is that the US has occupied Afghanistan for over 15 years now, and year after year they manage to have bumper crops, producing over 85% of the worlds heroin supply. Things the make you go, hmmmm.

 

[MikeC]

I'm terribly sorry for the news.

I was a druggie, and it almost ruined my life at 25 before the justice system compelled me to do a 180.

I never blamed my parents. I do regret the company I was in.

 

[bossaddict]

My worst nightmare. I have two little ones and appreciate you opening yourself up like this to help warn us. I lost my brother to drugs/alcohol the day my oldest daughter was born. My heart is with you and your family. So sorry.

 

[caljoe]

Prayers for you and your family. So sorry.

 

[OldBenKenobi]

Nightmare.

Sorry for your loss.

 

[captainbraindamage]

Very sorry to here this. I've been expecting a similar visit. With my son it is meth, 15 years. As a parent I tried to do the right thing but you are always second guessing yourself. Do I try to help him out, maybe pay for rehab again. Or do the tough love thing, thinking they have to figure this shot out for themselves to get better. Am I a co-enabler? I don't have any answers, but you have my condolences. I lost a daughter in a car crash. Sometimes I think why her that had her shot together and so much potential is gone and the meth head son is still here. Maybe I shouldn't think that way, but it's hard not to.

 

[Tone deaf]

Steve, my heart breaks for you, your wife and your son. I don't know what to say other than I will keep all of you in my prayers.

 

[ToneasaurusRex]

Steve, my brother, you never were "comic relief" to me and tonight you are so much more. I am so sorry to hear this news. Wishing you peace and healing. Take care.

 

[parts]

Steve..many..too many of us are touched by this disease..
The names are different the loss of a young troubled man is still heart wrenching..

Peace to you the family and him..

 

[OHIOSTEVE]

Very sorry to here this. I've been expecting a similar visit. With my son it is meth, 15 years. As a parent I tried to do the right thing but you are always second guessing yourself. Do I try to help him out, maybe pay for rehab again. Or do the tough love thing, thinking they have to figure this shot out for themselves to get better. Am I a co-enabler? I don't have any answers, but you have my condolences. I lost a daughter in a car crash. Sometimes I think why her that had her shot together and so much potential is gone and the meth head son is still here. Maybe I shouldn't think that way, but it's hard not to.

this is the hardest thing I had to get through to my wife. We did everything we could and finally had to explain that when she bought him food, he was taking the money he had for food and buying heroin then eating her food. We cut him off completely. He called a few times from jail and each time is expensive and each time was more bull****. I told my wife to stop answering. He called her cell 5 times yesterday and she refused to answer. He overdosed early this morning. But I feel no guilt at this time. His choices were his.

 

[Caretaker]

Thoughts and prayers your way. So sorry to hear this.

I`m so sorry.
I just remembered my sig in my post. It is inappropriate to say the least. It is a lyric passage from a song, that`s all. I sincerely meant no disrespect to you or your situation.

 

[SteveC]

Steve, I am so sorry to hear this. You have my sincere condolences.

 

[OHIOSTEVE]

I`m so sorry.
I just remembered my sig in my post. It is inappropriate to say the least. It is a lyric passage from a song, that`s all. I sincerely meant no disrespect to you or your situation.

None taken at all. Had you not pointex it out I would not have even noticed.