It is rough. I feel for you.April 30 will be 8 years since we lost Justin.Seems like yesterday. I just try to think of the good memories. This time and holidays is always the worst.
All that you can do is the best that you can. And even then there are no guarantees. In hindsight I made mistakes and so will you. But if you will read the very first post in this thread I believe with everything in me it will help you. People say that you cannot choose their friends and that may be true but you can damned sure steer them away from people. I didn't, under the idea that being around Jake and around us would benefit them. I am the guy in the neighborhood that parents tell their kids "If something happens and I am not home get to Steve". All summer long my yard is full of kids. I have walked out and said "ok who are you and who are your parents " more than once. But now I am more aware of the "bad kid" and watch em like a hawk. There is a boy in the neighborhood. He is a whole story on his own or rather his POS mom is. I tried to help and mentor him.... He is no longer allowed here. It is not his fault but I don't care I have an 8 year old grand daughter that I have to worry about.This is a tough one... I have 3 boys.. they are still very young (6 and 4 years old) but so many nights when I lie on bed I just have thought thoughts about the kids 10 or 15 years ahead... would they be good or bad? will I be able to raise them correctly? etc.
I just read this entire thread.. shed a few tears...but the last post in the thread was odd. The boy got in trouble for "humping" a little kid in the county next to us THEN got caught masturbating on the school bus and letting kids watch. This was just a couple of weeks ago. He is 12 or less in age. Has been seen out on his bike at 3-4 in the morning out here. He has recently just disappeared. I assume in juvenile detention.All that you can do is the best that you can. And even then there are no guarantees. In hindsight I made mistakes and so will you. But if you will read the very first post in this thread I believe with everything in me it will help you. People say that you cannot choose their friends and that may be true but you can damned sure steer them away from people. I didn't, under the idea that being around Jake and around us would benefit them. I am the guy in the neighborhood that parents tell their kids "If something happens and I am not home get to Steve". All summer long my yard is full of kids. I have walked out and said "ok who are you and who are your parents " more than once. But now I am more aware of the "bad kid" and watch em like a hawk. There is a boy in the neighborhood. He is a whole story on his own or rather his POS mom is. I tried to help and mentor him.... He is no longer allowed here. It is not his fault but I don't care I have an 8 year old grand daughter that I have to worry about.
I just read this entire thread.. shed a few tears...but the last post in the thread was odd. The boy got in trouble for "humping" a little kid in the county next to us THEN got caught masturbating on the school bus and letting kids watch. This was just a couple of weeks ago. He is 12 or less in age. Has been seen out on his bike at 3-4 in the morning out here. He has recently just disappeared. I assume in juvenile detention.