For those with kids (drug related)

OHIOSTEVE

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If you have kids, and those kids have friends, whatever those friends are doing, so are your kids. One of the worst mistakes.... In retrospect the worst I guess.... Was believing that my son could hang out with low lifes and not be one. At 9:00 this morning there was a knock on my door. It was a sheriffs deputy to tell my wife and I that our youngest son was dead from an apparent heroin overdose. He was in jail and somehow got heroin smuggled in. He was 28 years old. I am not posting this for sympathy. You don't know me or him and to most of you I am comic relief. He was a junkie... He was a thief and he chose his path. He was not raised to be that way, but I guess every parent of a junkie says that. We did everything that we knew to do to help him but he always went back. So if you have kids talk to them. Pay attention to their friends. Be the best parent you can. And even then you have no guarantees.
 

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My deepest sympathies to you and yours. We almost lost our nephew. It could still happen though.
 

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You may not be asking for my sympathy, but my brother, youve got it.
I'm terribly sorry for this loss. Kids do kid **** and kid **** is the most retarded of all ****.
Thanks for the warning. My oldest is coming up on 12, and it's really time to start monitoring and helping him make his choices. Luckily we're friends with most of his best friends' parents and have been for years, so at least we've known all the possible influences from when they were babies, but I'm not letting my guard down.
Rip.
 

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I can't even begin to imagine what you're dealing with here. If there's a bigger tragedy I don't know what it'd be.

So very sorry for your loss.
 

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Steve, so very sorry to hear of this for you and your family. The mid-west is just crawling with this heroin epidemic. Whatever his behavior(s), he was still your son. Please know that we care here at MLP, and you can protest about not wanting sympathy all you want, but you're going to get it anyway.

My deepest empathy for you in your loss.

Bill
 

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Thoughts and prayers your way. So sorry to hear this.
 

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I am sorry Steve. I guess part of you knew something like this was bound to happen. You probably don't even know what you are feeling yet. It will reveal itself when the time is right. Hopefully soon! And work through it when it does. Maybe with lots of help.

I had an aunt that was 4 years older than me. Like a sister when we were younger. In her mid teens, she found her purpose in life and stuck with it to the very end. At 19 while I was in the room, she wrote a letter crying and went to sleep. My brother and I found a bottle of seconals or maybe tuinals that was filled that day empty. Opened the letter and yes, she was checking out. Got her to the hospital in time. But she never got any counseling. The rest of her life was a roller coaster. Even shot up with her son. And then one day when she was 48, her daughter (14) couldn't get in and had to go in through the window with help. And there she was, needle still in her arm.

I think this was what she chose to learn in this life and God agreed. Every step of her life, the Universe made the learning easy. Only God knows the real reasons and they are on the other side of the veil.

Peace to you and yours! And keep sending him your love. He needs it now more than ever and it will help you heal too!
 

northernguitarguy

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Steve, so very sorry to hear of this for you and your family. The mid-west is just crawling with this heroin epidemic. Whatever his behavior(s), he was still your son. Please know that we care here at MLP, and you can protest about not wanting sympathy all you want, but you're going to get it anyway.

My deepest empathy for you in your loss.

Bill
The sh*t is everywhere. Canada's current drug problem (especially out west) is the fentanyl and carfentanyl deaths.

Hugging my boys extra tight right now.
 

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Steve, don't blame yourself. Even if you could counter-rotate the Earth, there are some things in life that can't be undone. We have lost quite a few relatives before their time. 'Why' is all we can ask, but there is no simple answer.
 

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I'm so sorry to hear the Steve. It's things like this that make me think when people say drugs are a victimless crime.
 

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That's terrible news. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
 

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im sorry for your loss.sometimes no matter how hard you try as a parent it has no effect on the path your kids take.
 

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I don't blame myself. I am human and I make mistakes. I am 51 years old and have never even smoked weed. Not once ever. So the drugs he didn't get from me or his mother. But when he first started hanging out with the wrong kids in school (not blaming them, he was one of them I guess) I wish I had put a stop to it. I was the kid in school who was friends with both sides of the tracks and assumed he could be the same and not fall to the influence. So once again, if your child has a friend whongets in trouble for whatever. The odds are high your child is involved in it. There is no turning back the clock. They may hate you for being strict now. But at least they will be there to hate you.
 

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Jeezus.

Man I'm so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. I couldn't wish that on anyone.
 

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I have no words. Thinking of you and your wife.
 


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