Horse
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hi guys,
Not sure how to write this so i will just write. recent events made things kinda weird round here, but i think some good is coming from it. I think theres a real camaraderie and friendship here, and i see a lot of openness happening too. Its encouraged me to do something i wouldnt otherwise have done, share something deeply personal.
Last month, my dad passed away, I only told a couple of guys here, I was just trying to get my head and heart around it. this isnt a cry for sympathy, far from it. I want to tell you about him and celebrate his life and memory. I think its therapeutic for me and it feels right.
He joined the air force in his late teens, spent 4 years, mostly stationed in Singapore. By this time he had bought his first saxophone and was playing in a jazz group over there and running a jazz radio station in his down time. After leaving the Air force he was in the merchant navy for two years then married mum!
he turned his hand to being a chef and as i was brought up he passed on his love of Jazz and his artistic skillls to me.
on his and mum's retirement from the restaurant game 10 years ago he had a triple heart bypass, and made a good recovery, but he suffered from a progressive Alzheimer like dementia as a result. slowly over the years we lost him bit by bit, but he was always cheerful and loving, and loving his music, he dug the David Gilmour 'On An Island' cd i took round to him
Whilst i was on holiday in April I was told he had been diagnosed with bowel cancer after having pains. the night he died i felt it was near. The rest of the family went home but i stayed 5 more hours into the night, he was unconcious, but i sat playing his jazz on cd to him and talking to him about how he had been a great dad and the good times we had had. he passed peacefully 2 hours after i got home to catch some sleep.
I will remember his jazz in my head, and him in my heart always. what a guy, talented, musician, artist, dad, and baker of the best sausage rolls ...
here's a pic i have of him from his time in Singapore, this inspires me every day and its him to a tee.
I wanted you guys to know about him, he deserves it, and he would have loved the vibe here.
To Dad, cheers, love you mate
Not sure how to write this so i will just write. recent events made things kinda weird round here, but i think some good is coming from it. I think theres a real camaraderie and friendship here, and i see a lot of openness happening too. Its encouraged me to do something i wouldnt otherwise have done, share something deeply personal.
Last month, my dad passed away, I only told a couple of guys here, I was just trying to get my head and heart around it. this isnt a cry for sympathy, far from it. I want to tell you about him and celebrate his life and memory. I think its therapeutic for me and it feels right.
He joined the air force in his late teens, spent 4 years, mostly stationed in Singapore. By this time he had bought his first saxophone and was playing in a jazz group over there and running a jazz radio station in his down time. After leaving the Air force he was in the merchant navy for two years then married mum!
he turned his hand to being a chef and as i was brought up he passed on his love of Jazz and his artistic skillls to me.
on his and mum's retirement from the restaurant game 10 years ago he had a triple heart bypass, and made a good recovery, but he suffered from a progressive Alzheimer like dementia as a result. slowly over the years we lost him bit by bit, but he was always cheerful and loving, and loving his music, he dug the David Gilmour 'On An Island' cd i took round to him
Whilst i was on holiday in April I was told he had been diagnosed with bowel cancer after having pains. the night he died i felt it was near. The rest of the family went home but i stayed 5 more hours into the night, he was unconcious, but i sat playing his jazz on cd to him and talking to him about how he had been a great dad and the good times we had had. he passed peacefully 2 hours after i got home to catch some sleep.
I will remember his jazz in my head, and him in my heart always. what a guy, talented, musician, artist, dad, and baker of the best sausage rolls ...
here's a pic i have of him from his time in Singapore, this inspires me every day and its him to a tee.
I wanted you guys to know about him, he deserves it, and he would have loved the vibe here.
To Dad, cheers, love you mate
