Boy I feel stupid, didn't see this coming at all.

[HenryHill]

It takes your appetite for more away.

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=myVzaR8cmDA[/ame]

 

[Kamen_Kaiju]

Seriously, just politely walk up and thank him and express that your only regret is they didn't tell you 6 years ago...that dude's head will be scrabbled eggs.

 

[stinkfoot]

Every time I come across a story like this, it reminds me why I am so glad that I never married.

Of the approx two dozen or so people who where were part of our little clique back in high school, I and the only one who is not divorced. Because I never got married in the first place. I guess you could call me the `lone survivor`..

 

[Gloveberg]

Z, take solace in the fact that any relationship built on lies and deceit will never last. Once the "thrill" of sneaking around wears off and they realize they are stuck with each other it will go up in smoke. Pray she doesn't do the "I'm so sorry and made a huge mistake so will you take me back" thing. She blew it...in more ways that one

 

[tazzboy]

I read in your profile that you 4 kids. I hope they are grown up by now and on there own?

 

[Mindfrigg]

Your wife and your friend...they both cheated on their spouses. A very good chance that they'll cheat on each other too.

The only up side of this very bad situation is that you are lucky to be shed of both of them. That kind of disloyalty is a way of life.

 

[Hanover Fist]

An oldie, but still a good read, along with his other revenge books:

 

[Stinky Kitty]

The best revenge is to let them see they do not have the power to affect you or your happiness.

It may be impossible to feel this now, but you are the winner here, hands down.

 

[rockinlespaul]

My advice is worth what you paid for it, but here goes:

1. You can only control what it is that you do.

2. Do not allow yourself to be consumed by negative feelings, yes you are sad, mad, angry, hurt etc. and it is up to you, and only you, to regain your happiness.

3. Take the high road. You'll have plenty off opportunities to go off on her and him, don't. Ignore them to the extent possible. Don't ever let them know that they have any power to hurt or otherwise provoke you.

4. "Making things right" as it relates to similar situations only happens in the movies. Refer back to #1. You can't control what other people do and while they may deserve to suffer, that is not for you to decide nor is it for you to met out.

5. Move on, as quickly as you can. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt or even that you want to move on. However, it is what you need to do. Your life isn't over, you're just moving into a new chapter.

6. If you both can act rationally, mediation might work. It is probably worth a try. If you are both constantly trying to get back at the other, don't waste your time with mediation.

7. You have possession of the house. She abandoned it and you. Defend that position. Round up your irreplaceable items and safely pack them away. So that you can relocate them on a moments notice.

8. Get control of your finances. Check your online banking statements and know every last automated payment that you have. Eliminate what isn't necessary. Close joint bank accounts, or at least have your name removed from them ("retitled" to just her name). Close all joint credit cards, immediately (or you'll be paying all of them).

9. As was previously stated, open a new account in your name only and have any paychecks go there. If you get physical checks to deposit, keep a balance in the account that is slightly greater than the amount of the checks. When you get another check, endorse it and cash it at the counter (i.e. don't deposit it). Buy a small safe from harborfreight or home depot and bolt it to the floor somewhere hard to find. Put your cash in your safe.

I would read this and then read it again to make sure it sinks in.

Man, I feel for you. That is really a ****ed situation but you gotta try to keep your cool and be the better person thru this whole ordeal. You already are, but you must continue to do so. I know its going to be impossible not to think about all this **** 24/7 as I've been in your shoes and it totally blows I know.

Just keep your head up and concentrate on you and your future. If you ever need a ear, I'm a pm or a phone call away.

 

[moodyedge]

What a c#nt and what a sh!tty thing to do.

True colours there and the colour is dog turd.

I also was dumped out of the blue for somebody else. It nearly killed me.I am proud of is the fact I walked away with my integrity. I said thank you in an emphatic way (wasnt genuine gratitude) and that was it. No name calling, no getting even, no revenge. ...... she emailed after and I said dont ever contact me again. That was it. I did have a mental image of me going down there with a les paul she bought me and throwing it through her window and driving off but........I sold it on ebay

Im not religious.......but universal energy likes find a balance.......when somebody does something sh!tty, one day it may come back around in some form........people say karma......and misinterpret it. Karma simply means action.....science says for every action theres an opposite and equal reaction.

Put you're efforts and energy into looking after yourself because you are the only one that can do that. I wish I did that when I was at rock borrom.

When your ready, find yourself somebody that does care that is worth your time. I was single a year then met somebody and Im much happier.

Good luck.

 

[HenryHill]

You're going up, she's going down.

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H4BBQMjbX3c[/ame]

 

[artis_xe]

She is one hell of an actress cause there were no signs at all.

She is one hell of an actress cause there were no signs at all.

She is one hell of an actress cause there were no signs at all.

cannot trust people like this . your friend will be coming to you for console one day . saying those exact words ( highlighted in yellow ) . don't trust him either

 

[Engel]

Dude, make sure your finances get square, then go out and treat yourself to a new LP. join a rock band and go play some windmills like Pete Townsend.

 

[Deus Vult]

Your wife and your friend...they both cheated on their spouses. A very good chance that they'll cheat on each other too.

The only up side of this very bad situation is that you are lucky to be shed of both of them. That kind of disloyalty is a way of life.

Or they might stay married forever and post on message boards about how someone else has a poor character.

 

[Mindfrigg]

You callin' me out ***hole?

Better bend over and grab yer cankles!

 

[Deus Vult]

You callin' me out ***hole?

Better bend over and grab yer cankles!

I appreciate the offer but I'll pass.

And no I wasn't calling you out. But it seems you have a guilty conscience?

 

[Ed B]

Sorry to hear about this. It's about as ugly as it gets. You will be glad to have both of them gone. They're both heinous individuals. Every one will see them for that.

Try to keep your head up and definitely keep your cool. Good luck, man!

 

[Mindfrigg]

I appreciate the offer but I'll pass.

And no I wasn't calling you out. But it seems you have a guilty conscience?

Just tryin' to hep a brother out.

You on the other hand are just kibitzing.


Kibitzer!!


<that's right...I said it...>

 

[Deus Vult]

Just tryin' to hep a brother out.

You on the other hand are just kibitzing.


Kibitzer!!

Better than trying to find my cankles

 

[JohnnyN]

Holy crap that's bad! Sorry to hear this happened to you.
It' a terrible blow but don't let it destroy you - someday you'll find love again.

And this - definitely this:

Lawyer up, change the locks and drain the accounts.