- Jan 20, 2010
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I need a drummer ,I was sad when I didn't have one,drummer =band.
Yeah, original groups take a lot of work. What made this one work for 2 years was everyone at the beginning had something they had in their back pocket to start with. I'll admit, it was mostly material the band leader/drummer had, but I had a few things too and was able to add accordingly to whatever other people had. I'm not a terrific songwriter but I came up with some decent solo's for some of the tracks. Some I'm proud of, others meh.I almost wrote something similar. After college, original bands are pretty much impossible. You're either going pro in music and going all-in, or you're going pro in something else, in which case you don't really have the time to do an original band justice (the vast majority of the times). The people that have the time are the drama cases, the deadbeat cases without the jobs, etc.
There are obviously exceptions. There's a reason that most people playing original music and gigging are the singer/songwriter types with an acoustic guitar and maybe one other person, though.
I would almost consider myself a "co-leader" considering what I contributed. As far as carrying the load musically, it's safe to say this was the drummer. The dude who carried us professionally while providing a solid jam space was me. Different kind of load to carry, but an important one.Team: One guy carries the load, the others want their opinions heard.
I think (being 13 years older than you) that you're just hitting the point in life where you really start to differentiate between the responsible adults and the losers. Throughout your 20s it's a little harder to differentiate, because a lot of people are taking a longer path through school or grad school, don't have kids or real responsibilities yet, etc.Lol dang, you mean I have to be under 23 years old to be rich and famous?
Just kidding of course. I'm not trying to get rich and famous lol. I'm about to hit my 30's in December. All I want to do is create music I'm proud of and maybe play a crappy bar gig every now and then, which is what I was able to do with this band so I feel kind of at peace in some ways as far as accomplishments go. I wish we could have gotten professional grade recordings however, but that's alright. Continuing to work with shitty people isn't worth what I'd have to do to achieve that.
People with such characteristics aren't usually musicians!You need to find musicians with their own equipment, their own transportation, and their own job. I don't care how good they are, if they don't have those things, they're too much trouble (drama, deadbeat, unreliable, entitled, druggie, whatever). Those simple criteria will eliminate 90% of your problems.
The world is ready for my cover band consisting of us guys in their late 40s early 50s. You just wait.
100%. What's sad is I'm the 2nd youngest of them all. Bass player and drummer are 35-36, singer is 27? (I think). You're correct, nobody needs to be super successful in their personal lives to be a reliable bandmate. They just need to have their shit together to some degree and that includes having your own gear. No excuses if you're 35 and don't have a way to play drums at a potential gig, or you aren't willing to do whatever is necessary to get a recording you're happy with without having to rely on someone else's drum set. Being this way in your mid 30's means they're set in their ways and beyond the point of ever changing.I think (being 13 years older than you) that you're just hitting the point in life where you really start to differentiate between the responsible adults and the losers. Throughout your 20s it's a little harder to differentiate, because a lot of people are taking a longer path through school or grad school, don't have kids or real responsibilities yet, etc.
Once you're dealing with a group of adults (everyone over 27 years old or so), then you're pretty much responsible or a loser in my experience. If you've got musicians over 30 who don't have their own equipment, don't have their own transportation, don't have a job, etc, you've got to move on. That's forgivable for a while in your early 20s maybe, but at some point it just becomes a sign that you're lazy, irresponsible, have bad people skills, abuse drugs or alcohol, what have you. I'm not saying that everyone in the band needs to be super successful in their careers, but they should be a functioning adult or don't even bother with them.