- May 17, 2013
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Ha, you're asking us?
I don't see it at all as "selling out." For me personally, it's not about $$$$$ (obviously,; I'm a high school teacher). And very happy. I chose happiness and sanity over $$$$.I have a job offer that I've been agonizing over for a couple weeks now. I've officially turned it down, but the company really wants me and continues to make concessions in order to get me to reconsider.
I would literally double my current annual salary. At age 47, I can't imagine I'll get too many opportunities for that big a raise in the future. Like, ever again. My wife hasn't worked since we had our kids, doesn't really want to and wouldn't have to.
It's a huge corporation, biggest in my field by far - so job security, benefits, etc. are off the charts compared to anything I've had so far in my career.
My new office would be about 25 miles from my home, so I'd shave about 15 minutes each way off my daily commute.
The position itself is literally the pinnacle of my field in this part of the country, i.e. there is no higher point to which I could rise without moving several thousand miles west. We own our home here and love where we live. In short, I'm not moving.
There is a big personnel management component to this job: nine direct reports, most of any position within this entire corporation. By contrast, my current job has exactly zero personnel management responsibilities. Managing people can be a royal PITA, and with nine reports the chances of at least one dud, and probably a few, are pretty high.
My current employer is great. The company is small and work logistics are very fluid as a result. I have tremendous flexibility in just about every aspect of my job. I am second from the top on the proverbial totem pole, so if I have an idea that I want to implement I only need to get it past one person. In this new position, there will be steering committees for the steering committees.
My new job would entail a lot of meetings. Meetings suck. It would also be more stressful. Stress sucks, and I don't always handle it well.
It would also entail regular travel that would take me away from my family. In general, the job would be a lot more demanding, making it more difficult for me to strike a healthy work/life balance. My wife and I have three young children. Me not being home, or not fully present/engaged when I am, puts a lot more pressure on my wife.
I'm facing a real quandary here. I'm not looking for advice (this is not one of those "what color pick should I use?" threads). I'm just curious if anyone else has ever sold out, professionally - made a career decision involving a significant amount of compromise in exchange for money, power, etc.
I know everyone has different motivations, but where does money/advancement fit into the career choices you've made?
But it certainly has diminishing returns on the happiness it does buy. I'm doing ok, to say the least. Being broke, and barely breaking even -> covering my expenses with a little extra left over (getting guac on my burrito without checking my bank) was the huge jump in my mental well being. Making enough to save, and buy some toys? Eh, not really any happier, I just have more toys to occupy my time.there isn't much I wouldn't do to double my salary.
Whoever said, "money doesn't buy happiness" has never been really poor.