Biggest decision I've ever made - Updated Again !!

redking said:

Godspeed brother!!

(could anyone step in and deliver a basic level of service at your business in the meantime? even if it's just answering the phone etc?)

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Not this time....

Last time when my mom was sick, my son Seth did a good amount of work for me....basic stuff.

Not many and I'd say, most would not step up like you are.
Says a lot about you.

Sounds like you have plans in action and not going about this willy-nilly.

You'll get thru this and look back with pride and the mad respect from your family.

Marshall & Moonshine said:

FWIW, I think you're a good man.

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Who? Zungle? Yeah, ok.

But on the other hand, we got friggin dc007, Steve, mdubya, JTM45, Grandrune, fk'n Bobby M, that damn Fiat Lux, cherrysunburst, Rich CB.. Leee.. Bluesky.. Sweet Christ on a bicycle..

dc007.. yeah, him twice. And Victor. fk'n Victor. Grandaddy of them all.

And rcole_sooner.. even admits he's a beach bum, in a landlocked state..

Mother Mary, what the hell are we workin' with here..?

Do you guys even realize we have a bungle and a zungle posting in the same fk'n thread?

LtDave32 said:

Do you guys even realize we have a bungle and a zungle posting in the same fk'n thread?

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I think about that everytime he posts.

World keeps getting crazier

LtDave32 said:

Do you guys even realize we have a bungle and a zungle posting in the same fk'n thread?

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Just as long as it doesn't end up Bungle in the Zungle... then it turns into a 'bling thread

Best of luck, Mr. Z. What you're about here is straight-up righteous.

You're an accomplished artisan when it comes to your profession-- well, after seeing so much of your work, I doubt that you couldn't just go right back to it the moment things are settled and the time arrives. Might even find people waiting on ya-- who knows?

So yeah: best of luck... better than the best even. And you have my respect.

--Rob

CB91710 said:

Just as long as it doesn't end up Bungle in the Zungle... then it turns into a 'bling thread

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Bungle in the Jungle = great song by a great band!!


Bungle in Zungle = Eeeeewwwww

CB91710 said:

Just as long as it doesn't end up Bungle in the Zungle... then it turns into a 'bling thread

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Is Zungle down with the pappy wap?

So....a quick update to siutation.

After getting granny home, making the decision to move her etc etc, we've had a few curveballs or changes.....

I got in home health(actual nurses etc ) set up for a check up every Thurs until we could move forward .....they've been out twice and have been great.
They do in home catheter swaps and weekly home visits indefinitely .....or as long as needed.....all covered by medicare.

We talked with in home health and her primary Dr a little more and came the conclusion we really needed to get her into Urologist and do testing etc on her bladder before we moved her.

One of the points being she's established in the Kadlec Medical system where she's at and it would be easier to get done now ....easier than starting completely over where I live.

Medical in my area is a disaster, 3/4 of the Dr's wont take Medicare and seeing a specialist takes months.

So laid this path out with my brother etc.....





However since being home for a while...

She decided she wasn't moving anywhere and just wants to be left alone in her house.......after we already discussed endlessly what we were gonna do......etc.

Even though...
She still cant figure out how to empty the catheter bag,
She's not eating enough
She's not drinking enough water
She's gotten more wobbly on her feet.
Can't keep track of her meds
Hasn't had a complete bowel movement since getting home

Etc, etc, etc, etc, etc........


Night before last all of this came to a head ......she was extra weak physically and mentally, she lost control of her bowels, couldn't clean it up and had a fall inside her house......

I had the non emergency service medical team go out and evaluate her etc.......then had them take her back to hospital.....

Now she's furious with me and my brother.......she's insisting it wasnt a big deal and was fine.

The hospital admitted her but that wont last......

Now I gotta figure out what to do with her.....

I fear she may not qualify for assisted living now as she may be beyond their care level.


As for my shop I busted out a bunch of work this week while making a zillion phone calls.
I'm heading down to shop in a minute to load up another full day......

I'll be 100% caught up after today.

Until I have more clarity I'm gonna keeping getting done what I can.....

No good deed..........

Tell her she has two choices;

1. Enter the system there where she is.
2. Enter the system close to you so you can look after her.

You can blame someone else.

Say that she cannot legally go home (that may or may not be true).

She should at least be able to go to a rehab facility after the hospital.

From there you can transfer her to your area.

It sucks, and it sucks being the bad guy.

I hate to break it to you but no elderly person regardless of serious medical issues, will ever voluntarily agree to leave their home to move to any care facility, retirement home, hospice or whatever.

I've been involved with a bunch of older folks both men and women, over the past 20 years and not one wanted to move no matter how bad the state of things was. Dementia, late stage cancer, kidney failure, house flooded out with no power no water, still fought and complained about moving. Nobody wants to give up their independence or admit they need help.

Up to you, but I suggest taking the bull by the horns, make the executive decision and do what seems best. Elderly people can be like little children. They have similar dependencies but they can't admit it.
Its not easy.

Granny and I talked this morning.

She told me she's to weak to be at home anymore......its sinking in.

She told me to pack Brenda a bag and get over there so she can sign any necessary documents to help situation.....we'll see,

I already did most of the POA game with banks etc.....she doesnt know that.

The Dr called me and said they'll be keeping her for a couple more days.

They are refering her to a Palliative care and trying to find a facilty with that specific care.....unless we choose to do it in her home.....which is a no go.

Worked all day and still at shop.
(prepping the car for 600 more miles and 100+ F' temps)

Managed to get fairly caught up at work....and dumped a few custom jobs that require more time etc.....

My dad finally gave up his car at 91, after he and his gal pal went out for dinner and got lost going home. The route is one he has taken for at least 20 years.
Moved my godmother from Brooklyn a few years ago and accused me of stealing her mattress and Chip Ahoy cookies. She passed away a little after my mom did, who wouldn’t do hospice or even talk about it.

Freaking old people are a pain in the ass.
Thing is, we’ll get there if we live long enough.
And we may owe them a lot as they also may have taken care of their aging relatives and us.

Dad had dementia. 7 years older than mom.
After she had a fall in the garden. Dad didn't take it well, brother and sister stayed with him while mom recovered, but he started doing downhill faster. Mom made the decision that they could no longer remain in the house and found an assisted living facility near my brother. They sold the house and gave away/sold most of their belongings and moved.
That was really hard on dad... he had owned a home since '52... over 35 years in his first home, and abut 20 years in their 2nd, then moved to Texas.
Dad didn't make it a year after they moved and passed at 96.
Mom hung in there for another 2 years.
I think she saw it coming... January '22 we went to visit, and the kids came out from Georgia. She gave the kids her '18 Rav4, as she no longer trusted herself to drive (she was 92).
A few weeks later she had a stroke. She was recovering fairly well, but never recovered her ability to speak, and it really hit her hard. She passed 2 months later just before her birthday.
Brother was the executor of the will. They still had a good portion of what came from the sale of the house, and they were debt-free, so for the most part, it was distributing/selling what little property they still had.
Being local, and the only sibling with a larger home, my brother was able to take most of the old furniture that they carried with them from the original home... some of it belonged to my dad's parents including the desk I used in high school.

Life's a bitch and then.........

I tell you.....

I am being tested for sure.

Brenda and I are heading to Granny's in about an hour......

The plan was to leave around 6am

But the universe had different plans

Started getting achy around 10pm last night.....

Yep kidney stone was moving again....

About 2am it stopped....

After this popped out....




Feels better now.....but I'm pretty sure I have 1 more piece coming....


Everyone needs to pass a stone or two......it'll open your eyes to all sorts of torture......

Glad that fucker came out! Hoper yer feeling a lot better.