How do you guys deal with it?

ChiroDoc78 · 09-01-2010, 10:48 PM

So, I have been a guitar player for 16 years. I love it. Fortunately the words "Turn that guitar down" were never uttered from my parents mouths while I was younger. They knew how much I loved to play, and they just learned to drown it out. During college, I had roommates, so I played when they weren't home. After that, I've lived on my own, with no one to tell me to turn it down. Now, I'm 32, and newly married. I'm lovin married life...I have a great wife. But, before it becomes a problem, I wanna know...how do you guys get away with rockin out on your guitars without your spouse saying "Turn it the hell down!!"? Since the wedding a couple months ago, we have been kind of hopping around until we move into our house this month. So, the only time I've been playing guitar has been in the basement of my own home, where no one has been able to give me a hard time for playing too loud. Sometimes, when I get to playin "Paradise City" or "Heartbreaker", I crank the hell out of the volume, and the walls shake. I LOVE IT, and I know you do too! SO...what do I tell my wife the first time I hear her complain? I admit....alot of times I play the same songs over and over again. I can't help it...some songs just move me, and help me release stress. I just want to be prepared the first night we are in our house, and she hears the opening riff of "Black Dog" and gives me that look...

What do you guys do???

logen99999 · 09-01-2010, 10:54 PM

just tell her she married a rockstar.

ChiroDoc78 · 09-01-2010, 10:56 PM

yeah. maybe 10 years ago. She didn't know me then. The guy she knows now is a laid back country boy.

nevets75 · 09-01-2010, 11:02 PM

Tell her you are a package...the guitar is part of you...you kill the guitar and watch me slowly die lol

PakWaan · 09-01-2010, 11:03 PM

I bought mine an iPod Touch so she can listen to something else

180gROC · 09-01-2010, 11:05 PM

I moved half the furniture out of my living room, invited my buddy to bring his drumset over to set up and bought a bass amp and cab to put next to my marshall amp and cab. I invite the boys over for jams two or three times a week.

We use PA wedges as coffee tables when music isn't coming through them.

I never really thought too much about what she thought of it. She's never complained...

logen99999 · 09-01-2010, 11:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ChiroDoc78

yeah. maybe 10 years ago. She didn't know me then. The guy she knows now is a laid back country boy.

sounds like a rockstar to me. looks like you're in denial.

just kidding. isnt there an in-between here? maybe you can soundproof the basement or the room you plan on playing in. put carpeting on the walls and ceiling. that helps.

but seriously who's heard of a women leaving a guy because he plays guitar too loud

i think you have nothing to worry about.

jsadctnfn1 · 09-01-2010, 11:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by logen99999

sounds like a rockstar to me. looks like you're in denial... but seriously who's heard of a women leaving a guy because he plays guitar too loud

i think you have nothing to worry about.

Exactly! She KNEW who she was marrying!!!

RustyNuts · 09-01-2010, 11:11 PM

Simple. I got engaged to a bass player.

IndianScout · 09-01-2010, 11:15 PM

the wife got me a set of headphones and Guitar Rig..

I'm not allowed to crank up the amps at the house anymore

ChiroDoc78 · 09-01-2010, 11:17 PM

I promised the wife I'd buy her a keyboard...if she would learn to play "November Rain". Hell...I'd buy her drums if she wanted them. Anything I can do to bring her further into my world!!!

Dr.Distortion · 09-01-2010, 11:31 PM

Buy HER a Bass

zontar · 09-01-2010, 11:32 PM

Play loud when I'm the only one home.
Otherwise use headphones or play unplugged.

And every now & then play loud anyways.

Shake things up.

At one time I lived in a basement suite and I worked evenings, so I was often home and the people upstairs were not, so I played loud then.

One day I was playing loud and when I paused I heard the guy upstairs playing the same song.
So he came home, heard me playing and plugged in to jam though the floor.

27sauce · 09-01-2010, 11:37 PM

Get together with some buddies and jam once in a while, or join/form a band. I'm married with a 9 month old, but i play 3 times a week, so I don't really want to play loud at home much. Plus I get paid, she likes that, works for everyone!
Marc

dynabite · 09-02-2010, 12:00 AM

ChiroDoc78 · 09-02-2010, 01:01 AM

let me add the fact that I married a woman who has a little boy. He's become my son...he is 6 now...its awesome, but he doesn't understand the earth shaking sounds that come from my room, until he hears me play "Sweet Home Alabama". Havin a kid is awesome. I bought him a set of drums already. I'm hopin to have a band before the year's out....LOL!

circusboy28 · 09-02-2010, 01:02 AM

If you think there's wait until you've got kids. I just bought one those new Laney Cub 2 x 12 cab & head set ups. It's 15 Watts, but seems WAY louder than my Tiny Terror ever did. It has a <1W setting and even that cranks it out!

logen99999 · 09-02-2010, 01:55 AM

i have neighbors downstairs. that's why i dont crank it very often. and i made the mistake of buying a 75 watt fender tube combo for my bedroom. i also own a small ss amp that i use with headphone. i highly recommend it for 3am practice sessions after you come home from partying drunk. funny how i do my best playing in the wee hours of the night.

having said that i jam in a studio twice a week at least so i crank my amp there and get all that stress out.

Lowdown · 09-02-2010, 02:46 AM

All the lovin' in the world won't cure this one mate.
Me...I got myself a garage that I sound-proofed the best that I could and just lose myself in here(I'm of course in here now).
Good freakn luck! hahaha

android13 · 09-02-2010, 02:49 AM

Make a child, convert into rocker.

2 vs 1 advantage.

-=[Shifty]=- · 09-02-2010, 04:02 AM

How I deal with that?
I just don't get married.

siore · 09-02-2010, 04:17 AM

Remind me to include soundproofing in at least a room in our house design.

No way I'll be chained to headphones.

charveldan · 09-02-2010, 04:54 AM

I don't deal with it, i'm single, and will be for life, nobody owns me.

rockstar232007 · 09-02-2010, 05:03 AM

dynabite has the right idea!

Nigel T. · 09-02-2010, 06:23 AM

Loud is for onstage, so turn it down or use headphones or something. My girl knew what she was getting into as I am a keyboardist/guitarist. Apart from my (currently) 10 guitars (7 electric, 2 acoustic, 1 bass), 2 amps and a whole lotta pedals, she also had to contend with an 8 octave stage piano and a Hammond with complementing amp and assorted stuff.

My neighbors see me lugging around the gear on a regular basis and just lately they found out I was a musician, which illustrates the amount of noise that comes out of my cubicle. I keep the noise for rehearsal studios and stage.

tolm · 09-02-2010, 06:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IndianScout

the wife got me a set of headphones and Guitar Rig..

I'm not allowed to crank up the amps at the house anymore

Know that feeling! Guitar Rig 4 is pretty good and I play through that and a decent pair of headphones most of the time. Used to rehearse with my band every week which was great as I'd get to run the amp at a decent volume (although sadly often a rented amp) but now I just turn up on the (very) rare occasions that everyone else is out.

Need to find myself a house with basement/garage/shed that I can convert and soundproof. It's the only way!!

L60N · 09-02-2010, 06:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by logen99999

just tell her she married a rockstar.

**** yeah!

Seriously, I got married a couple of months ago too. My methods are:

1: wait till she's out
2: plug in the headphones.
or
3: Play the tele, as loud as I want. She loves the sound of the tele, not so with the paul.

Hope this helps. Oh and congratz.

Les Paw · 09-02-2010, 08:58 AM

If she really loves you she will understand. Try to set up far away enough to where it is not annoying people. It would also be prudent to simply ask her how she feels about it. Buy a cheap single bed and put it against the door when you want to play. It works wonders!! If you are married, it is like anything else you bring up or discuss. You can't ignore it, you have to address it. If your really good she won't say a word..LOL! She will ask when you are going to play out and start making $$$!!

Gizzorge · 09-02-2010, 09:12 AM

I am building a new house with a dedicated jam room. I am using green glue sound proffing compound between, double floor boards and doule 5/8th dry wall over the whole room, and stuffing mineral wool in every gap..... Yeah, I should be able to play as loud as I want, when ever i want....

ext1jdh · 09-02-2010, 09:19 AM

My wife works nights. I don't have this problem. Life is good.

Also I have a room in the basement that is good for jamming.

09-01-2010, 10:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
ChiroDoc78 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Leeds, Alabama Posts: 180 Thanks: 0 Thanked 17 Times in 2 Posts	How do you guys deal with it? So, I have been a guitar player for 16 years. I love it. Fortunately the words "Turn that guitar down" were never uttered from my parents mouths while I was younger. They knew how much I loved to play, and they just learned to drown it out. During college, I had roommates, so I played when they weren't home. After that, I've lived on my own, with no one to tell me to turn it down. Now, I'm 32, and newly married. I'm lovin married life...I have a great wife. But, before it becomes a problem, I wanna know...how do you guys get away with rockin out on your guitars without your spouse saying "Turn it the hell down!!"? Since the wedding a couple months ago, we have been kind of hopping around until we move into our house this month. So, the only time I've been playing guitar has been in the basement of my own home, where no one has been able to give me a hard time for playing too loud. Sometimes, when I get to playin "Paradise City" or "Heartbreaker", I crank the hell out of the volume, and the walls shake. I LOVE IT, and I know you do too! SO...what do I tell my wife the first time I hear her complain? I admit....alot of times I play the same songs over and over again. I can't help it...some songs just move me, and help me release stress. I just want to be prepared the first night we are in our house, and she hears the opening riff of "Black Dog" and gives me that look... What do you guys do??? __________________ 09 Gibson Les Paul Trad Plus Ice Tea 02 Fndr USA Double Fat Strat Hardtail Surf Pearl 01 Fndr USA Strat White Blonde 11 Fndr Std. Telecaster Black 10 Fndr CP 60's Stratocaster, Sonic Blue 95 Fndr Strat, Lake Placid Blue, Dual HB 98 Fndr USA Stratocaster 3-tone SB 11 Taylor 114CE 95 Epiphone Acoustic 12 Egnater Tweaker 40 Combo with 1x12 Ext Cab 98 Peavey 5150 Combo 2x12 04 Fender Hot Rod Deville 2x12 10 Fender Blues JR. NOS 10 Fender Mustang I

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logen99999 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York City Posts: 1,732 Thanks: 1 Thanked 40 Times in 22 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? just tell her she married a rockstar.

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ChiroDoc78 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Leeds, Alabama Posts: 180 Thanks: 0 Thanked 17 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? yeah. maybe 10 years ago. She didn't know me then. The guy she knows now is a laid back country boy. __________________ 09 Gibson Les Paul Trad Plus Ice Tea 02 Fndr USA Double Fat Strat Hardtail Surf Pearl 01 Fndr USA Strat White Blonde 11 Fndr Std. Telecaster Black 10 Fndr CP 60's Stratocaster, Sonic Blue 95 Fndr Strat, Lake Placid Blue, Dual HB 98 Fndr USA Stratocaster 3-tone SB 11 Taylor 114CE 95 Epiphone Acoustic 12 Egnater Tweaker 40 Combo with 1x12 Ext Cab 98 Peavey 5150 Combo 2x12 04 Fender Hot Rod Deville 2x12 10 Fender Blues JR. NOS 10 Fender Mustang I

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180gROC Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Florin, Ca, Posts: 5,136 Thanks: 230 Thanked 396 Times in 85 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? I moved half the furniture out of my living room, invited my buddy to bring his drumset over to set up and bought a bass amp and cab to put next to my marshall amp and cab. I invite the boys over for jams two or three times a week. We use PA wedges as coffee tables when music isn't coming through them. I never really thought too much about what she thought of it. She's never complained... __________________ Shooting portraits in a landscape world...

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RustyNuts Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Kentucky Posts: 355 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? Simple. I got engaged to a bass player.

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IndianScout Bartlett Retrospec Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: North Dakota Posts: 1,996 Thanks: 43 Thanked 80 Times in 41 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? the wife got me a set of headphones and Guitar Rig.. I'm not allowed to crank up the amps at the house anymore

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ChiroDoc78 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Leeds, Alabama Posts: 180 Thanks: 0 Thanked 17 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? I promised the wife I'd buy her a keyboard...if she would learn to play "November Rain". Hell...I'd buy her drums if she wanted them. Anything I can do to bring her further into my world!!! __________________ 09 Gibson Les Paul Trad Plus Ice Tea 02 Fndr USA Double Fat Strat Hardtail Surf Pearl 01 Fndr USA Strat White Blonde 11 Fndr Std. Telecaster Black 10 Fndr CP 60's Stratocaster, Sonic Blue 95 Fndr Strat, Lake Placid Blue, Dual HB 98 Fndr USA Stratocaster 3-tone SB 11 Taylor 114CE 95 Epiphone Acoustic 12 Egnater Tweaker 40 Combo with 1x12 Ext Cab 98 Peavey 5150 Combo 2x12 04 Fender Hot Rod Deville 2x12 10 Fender Blues JR. NOS 10 Fender Mustang I

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zontar Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: In a people house Posts: 10,217 Thanks: 80 Thanked 116 Times in 61 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? Play loud when I'm the only one home. Otherwise use headphones or play unplugged. And every now & then play loud anyways. Shake things up. At one time I lived in a basement suite and I worked evenings, so I was often home and the people upstairs were not, so I played loud then. One day I was playing loud and when I paused I heard the guy upstairs playing the same song. So he came home, heard me playing and plugged in to jam though the floor. __________________ I've been a pilgrim on this earth since the day of my birth, I'm a long way from my home.

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27sauce Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 1,396 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 1 Post	Re: How do you guys deal with it? Get together with some buddies and jam once in a while, or join/form a band. I'm married with a 9 month old, but i play 3 times a week, so I don't really want to play loud at home much. Plus I get paid, she likes that, works for everyone! Marc

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ChiroDoc78 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Leeds, Alabama Posts: 180 Thanks: 0 Thanked 17 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? let me add the fact that I married a woman who has a little boy. He's become my son...he is 6 now...its awesome, but he doesn't understand the earth shaking sounds that come from my room, until he hears me play "Sweet Home Alabama". Havin a kid is awesome. I bought him a set of drums already. I'm hopin to have a band before the year's out....LOL! __________________ 09 Gibson Les Paul Trad Plus Ice Tea 02 Fndr USA Double Fat Strat Hardtail Surf Pearl 01 Fndr USA Strat White Blonde 11 Fndr Std. Telecaster Black 10 Fndr CP 60's Stratocaster, Sonic Blue 95 Fndr Strat, Lake Placid Blue, Dual HB 98 Fndr USA Stratocaster 3-tone SB 11 Taylor 114CE 95 Epiphone Acoustic 12 Egnater Tweaker 40 Combo with 1x12 Ext Cab 98 Peavey 5150 Combo 2x12 04 Fender Hot Rod Deville 2x12 10 Fender Blues JR. NOS 10 Fender Mustang I

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circusboy28 Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Petersham in sunny Sydney Posts: 5,378 Thanks: 182 Thanked 27 Times in 7 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? If you think there's wait until you've got kids. I just bought one those new Laney Cub 2 x 12 cab & head set ups. It's 15 Watts, but seems WAY louder than my Tiny Terror ever did. It has a <1W setting and even that cranks it out!

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logen99999 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York City Posts: 1,732 Thanks: 1 Thanked 40 Times in 22 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? i have neighbors downstairs. that's why i dont crank it very often. and i made the mistake of buying a 75 watt fender tube combo for my bedroom. i also own a small ss amp that i use with headphone. i highly recommend it for 3am practice sessions after you come home from partying drunk. funny how i do my best playing in the wee hours of the night. having said that i jam in a studio twice a week at least so i crank my amp there and get all that stress out.

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Lowdown Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 3,843 Thanks: 158 Thanked 44 Times in 14 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? All the lovin' in the world won't cure this one mate. Me...I got myself a garage that I sound-proofed the best that I could and just lose myself in here(I'm of course in here now). Good freakn luck! hahaha

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siore Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,878 Thanks: 118 Thanked 7 Times in 6 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? Remind me to include soundproofing in at least a room in our house design. No way I'll be chained to headphones.

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Nigel T. Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 924 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? Loud is for onstage, so turn it down or use headphones or something. My girl knew what she was getting into as I am a keyboardist/guitarist. Apart from my (currently) 10 guitars (7 electric, 2 acoustic, 1 bass), 2 amps and a whole lotta pedals, she also had to contend with an 8 octave stage piano and a Hammond with complementing amp and assorted stuff. My neighbors see me lugging around the gear on a regular basis and just lately they found out I was a musician, which illustrates the amount of noise that comes out of my cubicle. I keep the noise for rehearsal studios and stage. __________________ Loads of guitars! Signature limit doesn't allow me to list them all... Line6 Pod 2.0 Randall RM-4 (DLX, Top Boost, Plexi, 1086) Ceriatone Overtone HRM by Vernet Amps Area51 Wah, Digitech Whammy, Keeley modded Ibanez TS-808, George Dennis Volume, TC Electronic Nova System, Dunlop Heil Talkbox

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Les Paw Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 864 Thanks: 28 Thanked 46 Times in 14 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? If she really loves you she will understand. Try to set up far away enough to where it is not annoying people. It would also be prudent to simply ask her how she feels about it. Buy a cheap single bed and put it against the door when you want to play. It works wonders!! If you are married, it is like anything else you bring up or discuss. You can't ignore it, you have to address it. If your really good she won't say a word..LOL! She will ask when you are going to play out and start making $$$!!

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Gizzorge Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 244 Thanks: 0 Thanked 9 Times in 2 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? I am building a new house with a dedicated jam room. I am using green glue sound proffing compound between, double floor boards and doule 5/8th dry wall over the whole room, and stuffing mineral wool in every gap..... Yeah, I should be able to play as loud as I want, when ever i want.... __________________ Guitars: Various Guitars made of various woods and metals.

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ext1jdh Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Elgin, IL Posts: 9,023 Thanks: 83 Thanked 160 Times in 59 Posts	Re: How do you guys deal with it? My wife works nights. I don't have this problem. Life is good. Also I have a room in the basement that is good for jamming. __________________ There is no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes. -- Doctor Who Twitter Facebook Stop American Censorship Now!

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