am I wrong?

OldKISSfan · 09-28-2010, 06:57 PM

OK...so the wifey says she wants to learn to play and I agreed to give her beginner lessons at her own pace...trouble is...I really hate seeing my babies in someone elses hands-for any reason. Heres the deal I made her: I'll buy (just) one more and if you are serious about learning, it'll be yours. Seems reasonable doesnt it? Now...I kinda dont wanna part with it--havent even gotten it yet and I know its gonna need a little tweaking and set up before it reaches its potential but...here she is, my latest. A 2003 Korean (all 3 of mine are MIKs) Blue Quilt top. Gonna be hard to let her go....

diceman · 09-28-2010, 07:00 PM

Give her one of the Sunbursts!

theMETALone · 09-28-2010, 07:56 PM

That Is SEXY!!

Mike.B. · 09-28-2010, 08:04 PM

nice quilt top

River · 09-28-2010, 08:11 PM

Are you wrong not letting your wife play one of your guitars?

Yes. In SO many ways.

Phoenix59 · 09-28-2010, 08:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by River

Are you wrong not letting your wife play one of your guitars?

Yes. In SO many ways.

Agreed. On the occasions where my wife wants to play with something of mine, she has full permission to do so.

cherokee · 09-28-2010, 08:30 PM

Yes.

You should want to share everything with her...look at what she gives you.

needlespauls · 09-28-2010, 09:51 PM

WTF guys???? Hell no is he wrong!!! If she doesn't like playing, he gets the new axe! Guitars are a personal thing ya know. Enough with the sappy crap!
Good on ya man!

Leumas · 09-28-2010, 09:53 PM

So long as she doen't get pissed you get a new guitar out of it. She could absolutely get pissed though.

Texas Joe · 09-28-2010, 10:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by River

Are you wrong not letting your wife play one of your guitars?

Yes. In SO many ways.

Once again River hits it. I wish a woman I dated was serious about learning and not just dick around with one.

tony93666 · 09-28-2010, 10:29 PM

a deal's a deal - you said if she sticks with it, it's hers. You keeping it would be shitty on your part.

That being said, chances are fair she won't stick with it... how many people try and give up after 2 months? LOTS.

But you can't be a dick about it.

(I'm NOT saying you are, I'm just sayin'...)

that's a killer axe, by the way.

Skit · 09-29-2010, 12:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OldKISSfan

...trouble is...I really hate seeing my babies in someone elses hands-for any reason. Heres the deal I made her: I'll buy (just) one more and if you are serious about learning, it'll be yours.

Sounds like a control issue to me. It's a guitar not a Fabergé egg. You actually made that deal with her? (rhetorical) I would have bought her a guitar and surprised her with it. Who picked out the one you bought that is going to her?

P.S. Yes you are wrong. It's your wife.

davies · 09-29-2010, 01:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by River

Are you wrong not letting your wife play one of your guitars?

Yes. In SO many ways.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Texas Joe

Once again River hits it.

This.

OldKISSfan · 09-29-2010, 09:33 AM

ok-I DO see everybodies point, but the part you DONT know is that she undertook this whole "learn to play" venture about 3 months ago. Since then she has sat down with a guitar a grand total of 4 times-each time less than a half hour. I think she is falling into the category of those (I have seen many) who believe that when they see others play and it looks easy, it should be really easy to learn-once she realized its not as easy as she thought, she switched over to "...if I JUST had the RIGHT guitar..." Originally, my 2nd one was supposed to be hers, but when I got it home and she hadnt even picked it up after 2 weeks, I started calling it mine and she said fine. I guess time will tell. BTW-same woman who wanted to be a semi-pro photographer so I bought her a thousand dollar Canon DSLR and shes used it 5 times. Never know--thinking about signing her up for lessons with somebody else....maybe its just a me thing.

Robert Parker · 09-29-2010, 10:56 AM

Two thoughts: One, you made the deal. Hold up your end. As it sounds, you might be getting it back anyway. And, would she really not let you play her guitar afterwards, if you really wanted to?

Two: I have learned that only rarely should people try to teach their spouses anything like this. There's just something that changes from the marriage relationship to the teacher-student relationship. I may give my wife a few pointers about something if she asks (but it won't be in music, since she's got her master's in performance), but I won't take on the job of instructor. There's way more qualified people than me.

davies · 09-29-2010, 01:00 PM

Forgive me if this comes over the wrong way but I don't think it's very respectful to your wife for you to be criticising her on a public forum, however much you think the criticism is deserved.

And, after being told by most in answer to your original question that, yes indeed you are wrong, to defend your position with another example of her 'unreasonableness' is, well, at the very least, childish.

excessive81 · 09-29-2010, 02:06 PM

i hAVE THE SAME DEAL WITH MY SON.....LMAO

paruwi · 09-29-2010, 02:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by davies

Forgive me if this comes over the wrong way but I don't think it's very respectful to your wife for you to be criticising her on a public forum, however much you think the criticism is deserved.

And, after being told by most in answer to your original question that, yes indeed you are wrong, to defend your position with another example of her 'unreasonableness' is, well, at the very least, childish.

Quote:

at the very least, childish.

.....and poor !

brianugly · 09-29-2010, 04:37 PM

Keep that one for yourself and give her a cherryburst

LEFTY LES · 09-29-2010, 10:07 PM

my wife smashed my Les Paul on the side walk about 5 times........so I have no real input for you bro. If your wife is rad, let her play yours, who cares. Shes not gonna hurt it. Only you know what your relationship with her so its up to you. I say let her play away on your axe then you'll probably end up with another one anyway. I personally think its cool you got a girl whos into playing. So in my eyes your a lucky dude.

vulture · 09-29-2010, 10:38 PM

Let that girl Boogie Woogie...& yes she can play any guitar.

Agave_Blue · 09-29-2010, 10:40 PM

I dig blue guitars. Especially "blue burst" quilt tops.

What you should've done, though, it bought her an ugly guitar. Easier to give up.

ElectricGuitarist33 · 09-30-2010, 12:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LEFTY LES

my wife smashed my Les Paul on the side walk about 5 times........so I have no real input for you bro. If your wife is rad, let her play yours, who cares. Shes not gonna hurt it. Only you know what your relationship with her so its up to you. I say let her play away on your axe then you'll probably end up with another one anyway. I personally think its cool you got a girl whos into playing. So in my eyes your a lucky dude.

This cracked me up. I knew a guy who`s wife threw his out a 4 story window. I read somewhere, I think it was at Gibson, about common repairs they do to guitars. Many of them are the pissed off wife. I`m not married, don`t care to be, but if a woman smashed one of my guitars, she's gone. It's hilarious when it happens, not to me though.

09-28-2010, 06:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
OldKISSfan Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 50 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	am I wrong? OK...so the wifey says she wants to learn to play and I agreed to give her beginner lessons at her own pace...trouble is...I really hate seeing my babies in someone elses hands-for any reason. Heres the deal I made her: I'll buy (just) one more and if you are serious about learning, it'll be yours. Seems reasonable doesnt it? Now...I kinda dont wanna part with it--havent even gotten it yet and I know its gonna need a little tweaking and set up before it reaches its potential but...here she is, my latest. A 2003 Korean (all 3 of mine are MIKs) Blue Quilt top. Gonna be hard to let her go.... __________________ My Equipment: 2001 Ibanez Iceman 2001 Epi LP heritage cherry sunburst MIK 2003 Epi LP heritage cherry sunburst MIK 2003 Epi LP Blue Quilt-top 1 cheap-o acoustic Spider Line 6 112 Peavey 212 Classic ^^Tubes^^ Behringer 2X12 V-Tone Ibanez Tone Blaster ^^Solid States^^

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needlespauls V.I.P. Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Boston area Posts: 5,067 Thanks: 61 Thanked 46 Times in 25 Posts	Re: am I wrong? WTF guys???? Hell no is he wrong!!! If she doesn't like playing, he gets the new axe! Guitars are a personal thing ya know. Enough with the sappy crap! Good on ya man! __________________ http://Myspace.com/ElPrivates

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Leumas Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Northeastern PA Posts: 11,779 Thanks: 419 Thanked 334 Times in 57 Posts	Re: am I wrong? So long as she doen't get pissed you get a new guitar out of it. She could absolutely get pissed though. __________________ ~Leumas - clearly not a cyclist.~

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tony93666 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Middleboro, MA Posts: 188 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: am I wrong? a deal's a deal - you said if she sticks with it, it's hers. You keeping it would be shitty on your part. That being said, chances are fair she won't stick with it... how many people try and give up after 2 months? LOTS. But you can't be a dick about it. (I'm NOT saying you are, I'm just sayin'...) that's a killer axe, by the way. __________________ http://www.myspace.com/goeticcircle <- original stoner/doom metal http://tony93666.blogspot.com/ <- gear, music, videos, opinions

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OldKISSfan Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 50 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: am I wrong? ok-I DO see everybodies point, but the part you DONT know is that she undertook this whole "learn to play" venture about 3 months ago. Since then she has sat down with a guitar a grand total of 4 times-each time less than a half hour. I think she is falling into the category of those (I have seen many) who believe that when they see others play and it looks easy, it should be really easy to learn-once she realized its not as easy as she thought, she switched over to "...if I JUST had the RIGHT guitar..." Originally, my 2nd one was supposed to be hers, but when I got it home and she hadnt even picked it up after 2 weeks, I started calling it mine and she said fine. I guess time will tell. BTW-same woman who wanted to be a semi-pro photographer so I bought her a thousand dollar Canon DSLR and shes used it 5 times. Never know--thinking about signing her up for lessons with somebody else....maybe its just a me thing. __________________ My Equipment: 2001 Ibanez Iceman 2001 Epi LP heritage cherry sunburst MIK 2003 Epi LP heritage cherry sunburst MIK 2003 Epi LP Blue Quilt-top 1 cheap-o acoustic Spider Line 6 112 Peavey 212 Classic ^^Tubes^^ Behringer 2X12 V-Tone Ibanez Tone Blaster ^^Solid States^^

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Robert Parker Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Alexandria, VA Posts: 224 Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 3 Posts	Re: am I wrong? Two thoughts: One, you made the deal. Hold up your end. As it sounds, you might be getting it back anyway. And, would she really not let you play her guitar afterwards, if you really wanted to? Two: I have learned that only rarely should people try to teach their spouses anything like this. There's just something that changes from the marriage relationship to the teacher-student relationship. I may give my wife a few pointers about something if she asks (but it won't be in music, since she's got her master's in performance), but I won't take on the job of instructor. There's way more qualified people than me.

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davies Epi Verification Expert Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: South Wales, UK Posts: 3,052 Thanks: 1 Thanked 23 Times in 9 Posts	Re: am I wrong? Forgive me if this comes over the wrong way but I don't think it's very respectful to your wife for you to be criticising her on a public forum, however much you think the criticism is deserved. And, after being told by most in answer to your original question that, yes indeed you are wrong, to defend your position with another example of her 'unreasonableness' is, well, at the very least, childish. __________________ 1981 Ibanez Destroyer II - my first guitar 2001 White Pearloid E-series 2005 White Custom 2005 Classic GT 2005 Squire Strat 2007 Natural Custom Plus 2007 Prophecy GX 2008 Blue Std Plus 2008 Gibson Standard Faded Tobacco (my daughter's) 2010 Ibanez SA260FM TLB (my woman's) Pics of them all here if you're interested

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LEFTY LES Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 3,658 Thanks: 96 Thanked 154 Times in 27 Posts	Re: am I wrong? my wife smashed my Les Paul on the side walk about 5 times........so I have no real input for you bro. If your wife is rad, let her play yours, who cares. Shes not gonna hurt it. Only you know what your relationship with her so its up to you. I say let her play away on your axe then you'll probably end up with another one anyway. I personally think its cool you got a girl whos into playing. So in my eyes your a lucky dude. __________________ She promised and she vowed that she never would deceive me But the devil's in the women for they never can be easy

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