Dating just SUCKS...Period!

[The_Sentry]

I am sort of replying to this with Vast's thread...but I gotta think that as far as the topic of dating goes, most of us have a couple of coppers to chip in.

Now...as far as this dating thing goes...I'm going to admit this right now...as far as official "dates" where it was called a date with some girl I didn't really know....I have NEVER, EVER had a good date.

Ever.

Now, if I knew her and we were hanging out? Yeah, that's turned out OK. Hooking up with some girl at a party or whatever? Cool. I get her number after a show? Well....those have been interesting.

Seriously though....any time I've gone out on a "date" like that it's just...licked sack. Hard. It's one the crappiest and most humiliating things a guy can do to himself IMHO. I think you're better off by a mile just going to some random place and hooking up with a slut.

I'm not kidding about that, either.

Yeah...there's probably a reason I'm single. But you know something? I'd rather be single than beg someone to be in a relationship with me. Seriously. I'd rather just say "screw you, I'd rather play my guitar" than put on some dog and pony show for some girl who probably isn't attracted to me anyway.

And no, I can't really remember when one of "those kinds of dates" ever went anywhere. they haven't.

Dating sucks, Dating is lame. I feel sorry for any poor bastard who wants to subject himself to that. More times often than not it's fail and to boot your wallet is usually a bit ligther when you started.

PS: I don't know how it is for the ladies...but as far as I'm concerned I'd rather not put myself through that horrible, awful ritual again. Gimme a slut and I'm good!

(and sure, call me a misogynist but at least I'm being honest about it. It's gotten so bad that if I do take a girl out I'm very emphatic...DO NOT CALL IT A DATE! uGH.....I HATE DATING!! HATE IT HATE IT!!! )

[InfiniteeZ]

Originally Posted by The_Sentry

PS: I don't know how it is for the ladies...but as far as I'm concerned I'd rather not put myself through that horrible, awful ritual again. Gimme a slut and I'm good!

Yes indeed goodsir!!

[AXE]

1-800-dia-laho

[FLICKOFLASH]

I like hooking up where there a instant explosion & then dating follows

[Boleskinehouse]

I don't even remember what its like to date.

[Scooter2112]

Don't take it too hard, Sentry. You're probably over 30, so you've been to the puppet show and seen the strings. Getting set in your ways later in life tends to make it more difficult.

If you're 15-16 years old, it's all still so new, hence the different outlook.

Find out what works for ya and makes you happy and run with it.

[PINKBITS]

Originally Posted by Scooter2112

Don't take it too hard, Sentry. You're probably over 30, so you've been to the puppet show and seen the strings. Getting set in your ways later in life tends to make it more difficult.

If you're 15-16 years old, it's all still so new, hence the different outlook.

Find out what works for ya and makes you happy and run with it.

Sluts it is then Batter up Boles

[The_Sentry]

Originally Posted by FLICKOFLASH

I like hooking up where there a instant explosion & then dating follows

Those are usually the ones that work out.

Originally Posted by Scooter2112

Don't take it too hard, Sentry. You're probably over 30, so you've been to the puppet show and seen the strings. Getting set in your ways later in life tends to make it more difficult.

If you're 15-16 years old, it's all still so new, hence the different outlook.

Find out what works for ya and makes you happy and run with it.

Scooter, the funny thing is this. I think to a degree I'm blessed.

Yeah, I'm not married. No kids. But I've got so many friends that are married now, with kids, ass deep in bills, slaving at their jobs...and that's their lives. And for a lot of 'em they've already been divorced, remarried, and they still ain't happy.

I still get to do whatever the hell I want once I'm off work.

I feel ya on the high schoolers. I was that age. All I can say is this....yeah, gettin' some is nice, the ladies are great, but it ain't the end of the world by a long shot if you don't settle down with one. In fact, if you do and you have kids....you're probably going to have to give up a lot of your dreams and goals in life because supporting that family becomes your Number 1 Priority.

Food for Thought, kiddies.

[lp_junkie]

I don't do dating, I'll line up the next one first then get divorced..........

[Ride on a Pony]

Dating just sucks period?

[roadsong66]

The people on eHarmony seem really happy!

[The_Sentry]

Originally Posted by roadsong66

The people on eHarmony seem really happy!

Was that before or after they shot 'em up with tranquilizers?

[hipofutura]

I agree. That's why I got married.

[onedaycloser]

I've never did the "dating" thing, it was always friend's of friends that I knew or just someone I'd met at parties/classes and got to know.

Luckily I found a good woman that loves me and accepts me for what I am, and I her. We've actually argued MAYBE 3x since we've been together (6+ years total). People at work HATE that we get along so well (we work together).

I don't think I could do the dating thing again, I'd just stay drunk and hook up with hoes. Seems to work for my bachelor friends .

[coldsteal2]

I never dated either, except in High School.

[Harmony]

Dating sucks, men are all the same, bastids the lot of them



Just kidding


No one ever said it was easy, but it also maybe the type of girl you are dating. If you are happy with sluts and that gives you an easy life, then go for it.

I was never one to believe Eharmony etc really works, but more and more of people I have spoken to have hooked up with someone from there and one of the other places and turned out really well.

Not for me, but I guess it must be getting better than it was.

[Shithead]

I don't like "set up" dates. The best relationships just fall into your lap....so to speak.

[Atomic]

you know what i really hate about dating??

"the game."

its such a pain in the ass. you either play the game and risk losing the girl because youre "not being yourself," or you refuse to play the game.. and you risk losing the girl because she runs away from you because she "likes you too much."

then they bitch about being alone because they "can never find the right guy."

its total bullshit.

[River]

Sentry, it sounds to me like you're really focusing on blind, or nearly-blind dates. Back in the early Cretaceous, I met Riverette purely by accident. We clicked, and I got her number. Next time we met was a "date". We clicked some more. Time after that, another "date". Brunches, dinners, Blue Angel demonstrations...all "dates". They didn't all go perfectly, but we kept having them. How else does "it" work?

[Von Bek]

I do need to share this story. Back in the early eighties I had asked this girl out and so we and a bunch of mutual friends went out to dinner to a rib place, The Spare Rib out on Long Island. I didn't have much money at all at that time, I may have had $50.00 on me believing that it would be plenty for ribs or chicken. A healthy wager, right? So, we're all having a great time and the waiter starts taking orders. The bloody bitch orders Surf & Turf. That's right - fucking Filet Mignon and a Lobster tail! Needless to say I was in a bit of a spot. One of my friends understanding my predicament, says, "Surf & Turf? What are you having that for. We're all having ribs - this is a rib joint!" She wouldn't hear it, the bitch. Rather hot bitch, mind you. My other friend slips me a C note under the table and tells me not to sweat it. Well, with that extra money I keep the pitchers coming and makes good and sure that she's prepared to earn that Surf & Turf later on, so I did. A happy ending indeed!

[Harmony]

I agree River, meeting by accident is probably the most successful way.

In my history of dating or whatever, I have always paid my own way. Some may think that is strange lol Mainly because I didn't want to feel that I owe them after the dinner kind of thing.

Men think it is hard for them, but believe me, it can be just as hard for us women too.
Some guys can end up being a total jerk and just want some fun, some are looking for something real heavy real quick, and some you think are the right kind of guy, only to find out it was a charade.

We have to be careful not to give out the wrong kind of vibe if that isn't want we are looking for, and same time not to give the impression we are too keen either.
Such is life.

[LongBeach]

IMO, it's hard to find the woman you "click" with.
I've been single for 12 years. Sure, I can walk down to the
local watering hole on a Friday or Sat night and walk home with
a very attractive lady, do the dirty, she splits, that's it.
Which happens when the need arises. But's it's an empty attempt
to fill a need.

But so far, I just havent run into "that woman" that I click with.
I refuse to settle for the runner up.

[GibsonByBirth]

Some of the happiest times in my life were when I was dating my wife. We really enjoyed each other's company. We could just be ourselves. That's how its done.

We were married 1 year after our first date. We've been married 10+ years now and still date(each other).

[leftyguitarman]

The thing I hate about dating is that no girls ever have the balls to just say no or say that they're not interested. Instead they lead you on and make it seem like their interested when they're not. All it does is just waste my time, but girls don't seem to care. I haven't had a girlfriend in more than two years and I'm happy about it.

[Volitan]

Well, here's my take. Keep in mind my group of people are like 17-21.

Usually in my cirlce of friends, or people I know. EVERYONE got together in high school, and are still together. So no one knows how to date, really. They just got together in high school and have never dated anyone else. MY best friend and his fiancee started dating in 8th grade. If a woman becomes on the market you can't approach them like an adult because they're so sheltered with that one guy. The only real way to form a relationship with a girl is to just hang out with her alot. Formalities like "Can I get you number" "Can I take you out to dinner," etc, don't exist around here among people my age. The way now is to just hang out with the girl and just talk to her a lot. The more you hang out the closer you get, and one tihng leads to another, etc. No one gets to know each other on "dates". You get to know your "spouse" via just hanging out at parties and stuff. Sad but true. I will admit, you can't usually just spring a kiss on her (the girls actually start it usually), when hanging out. It's happens this way because this is how everyone in my age group and area managed in jr. high or high school. And that method is the only thing you know.

[The_Sentry]

Originally Posted by Harmony

Dating sucks, men are all the same, bastids the lot of them



Just kidding


No one ever said it was easy, but it also maybe the type of girl you are dating. If you are happy with sluts and that gives you an easy life, then go for it.

I was never one to believe Eharmony etc really works, but more and more of people I have spoken to have hooked up with someone from there and one of the other places and turned out really well.

Not for me, but I guess it must be getting better than it was.

Harmony, I've dated all types. I was pretty open to the experience for a long time. But let's be honest about this...

That "first" date...? I don't care what you call it, it's a bloody interview/interrogation and that's all it is. Maybe if you guys like each other enough to get to the second, or third...hey, that's great. I won't lie...everyone meets up with someone and it goes that way. But that first date isn't supposed to be "fun", and it rarely is. When I still felt lonely and I wanted to date, I'd make it a point to just have "that interview" in the daytime at a coffee shop or some other neutral place. It was misery and as I got older I realized "Ah, hell, if this is how it's gonna be, there's no point in stretching out the miserable affair for hours on end." I wish I had stuck with that...but I slipped a few times.

I guess the point is this: All this angst, all of that time wasted. The last time I went on an official "date" was sometime last year. It was a girl I went to high school with who had dated a buddy of mine. (I had just come back into this town and was getting reacquainted with people.)

We had dinner...we made talk. But there was...nothing. Nada. Zilch. She would tell me things, I would tell her things, I'd listen...but straight up, we weren't attracted to each other. At all. It was sort of like this hell where you're sitting there thinking "Yeah, we'd be good together" but there was nothing going on chemically or physically. I knew it, she knew it.

By the end of the night we were standing in front of a bar, and not saying a damned word to each other because we ran out of things to talk about.

And since then? Pfft. I'm not looking, and I'm not asking. I have no interest in wining and dining any woman at this point.

And I'll admit it...what makes it worse is this whole getting back into the bands business. I'm not trying to sound like an egotist, but "that guy" on stage...well, shit...women drop "him" phone numbers, make inquiries, all sorts of stuff. He gets all kinds of invites for naughty business. (He even got a nice pair of ta ta's flashed at him last month.)

But even those.....eh, hell with it. I think I'll just stick with my guitar to keep me company. Funny thing...when I was at the lowest point in my life, I knew that was about the only damned thing that felt right, that made sense to me.

I suppose it's still that way, even though I've moved across the country, and totally reinvented myself...again.

Harmony, I've lived an interesting life by a lot of people's standards. I have this suspicion that if I had settled down I'd have a lot less stories to tell.

And as far as asking women out, and taking them out on official "dates"....those ain't stories worth telling, or experiences worth remembering from my perspective. Especially since that's not something that gets easier, or better with practice.

It sucks when you're 16, and it still sucks when you're 26, 36, 46, 66, or 86 years old.

And parting shot on eharmony....I suppose there's suckers still born every minute.

[Volitan]

Originally Posted by The_Sentry

Harmony, I've dated all types. I was pretty open to the experience for a long time. But let's be honest about this...

That "first" date...? I don't care what you call it, it's a bloody interview/interrogation and that's all it is. Maybe if you guys like each other enough to get to the second, or third...hey, that's great. I won't lie...everyone meets up with someone and it goes that way. But that first date isn't supposed to be "fun", and it rarely is. When I still felt lonely and I wanted to date, I'd make it a point to just have "that interview" in the daytime at a coffee shop or some other neutral place. It was misery and as I got older I realized "Ah, hell, if this is how it's gonna be, there's no point in stretching out the miserable affair for hours on end." I wish I had stuck with that...but I slipped a few times.

I guess the point is this: All this angst, all of that time wasted. The last time I went on an official "date" was sometime last year. It was a girl I went to high school with who had dated a buddy of mine. (I had just come back into this town and was getting reacquainted with people.)

We had dinner...we made talk. But there was...nothing. Nada. Zilch. She would tell me things, I would tell her things, I'd listen...but straight up, we weren't attracted to each other. At all. It was sort of like this hell where you're sitting there thinking "Yeah, we'd be good together" but there was nothing going on chemically or physically. I knew it, she knew it.

By the end of the night we were standing in front of a bar, and not saying a damned word to each other because we ran out of things to talk about.

And since then? Pfft. I'm not looking, and I'm not asking. I have no interest in wining and dining any woman at this point.

And I'll admit it...what makes it worse is this whole getting back into the bands business. I'm not trying to sound like an egotist, but "that guy" on stage...well, shit...women drop "him" phone numbers, make inquiries, all sorts of stuff. He gets all kinds of invites for naughty business. (He even got a nice pair of ta ta's flashed at him last month.)

But even those.....eh, hell with it. I think I'll just stick with my guitar to keep me company. Funny thing...when I was at the lowest point in my life, I knew that was about the only damned thing that felt right, that made sense to me.

I suppose it's still that way, even though I've moved across the country, and totally reinvented myself...again.

Harmony, I've lived an interesting life by a lot of people's standards. I have this suspicion that if I had settled down I'd have a lot less stories to tell.

And as far as asking women out, and taking them out on official "dates"....those ain't stories worth telling, or experiences worth remembering from my perspective. Especially since that's not something that gets easier, or better with practice.

It sucks when you're 16, and it still sucks when you're 26, 36, 46, 66, or 86 years old.

And parting shot on eharmony....I suppose there's suckers still born every minute.

To be fair, who the hell asks out someone they aren't atrracted to?

[The_Sentry]

Originally Posted by Volitan

To be fair, who the hell asks out someone they aren't atrracted to?

You might like someone enough to have a conversation with.

As for asking out....shit, Volitan, people get MARRIED they aren't attracted to, let alone asking 'em out. (You know, "security" and all of that sort of business. )

[Volitan]

Originally Posted by The_Sentry

You might like someone enough to have a conversation with.

As for asking out....shit, Volitan, people get MARRIED they aren't attracted to, let alone asking 'em out. (You know, "security" and all of that sort of business. )

Oh, screw that. As I said before, dating in my age group, and my town is quite different. You don't actually go out on dates until you're already going together.

[The_Sentry]

Originally Posted by Volitan

Oh, screw that. As I said before, dating in my age group, and my town is quite different. You don't actually go out on dates until you're already going together.

That's kind of weird...but I'm not surprised by how it is. Eh, you're young. You may end up leaving that town anyway.